Friend ditched me for his bachelor party

[ikareteru]

So my close friend of 9 years is getting married in february, and wanted to bring us (his brother plus 4 others) to a trip outside the country.

We decided on the time and date, but a couple weeks ago he said the trip was cancelled because one od the guys on the trip had a family member in hospital, and the mother of my friend had a nervous breakdown.

She has had some severe health problems, so I empathized and we agreed to do it another time.

We were supposed to go yesterday, but I noticed on his brother instagram account a champagne glass in that city...

I figured maybe he wanted to go anyways for a trip by himself..

I waited it out, and now on his brother's instagram they are posing outside in the winter snow. My friend included!

What the fuck! I'm sitting here bummed out and don't know what to do.

 

[Stargazer Rex]

You are that friend that no one likes. sorry bro

 

[ikareteru]

We've been close friends for 9 years, gone to party trips outside the country several times, and the tales of me partying are legendary (not my words).

I don't get it.

 

[FierceRedBelt]

It happens. Let it go.

 

[usfbrah]

We've been close friends for 9 years, gone to party trips outside the country several times, and the tales of me partying are legendary (not my words).

I don't get it.

Maybe they're just trying to cool it and not go crazy and you being there would make it crazy. I don't get invited to places because I'm the guy that will turn up the party 90 notches. Buy drinks and pay for everything drugs, etc. but some people don't like that all the time

 

[AgedFlatus]

You are that friend that no one likes. sorry bro

/thread

 

[usfbrah]

It happens. Let it go.

Like Paul McCartney says, let be ! Oh let it be !

 

[OverCoronavirus Pressure]

Sounds like you have some sneaky, chickenshit friends.

 

[TrevorRoss]

Friends are overrated.

 

[Pittie Petey]

Go fuck his bride

 

[TrevorRoss]

So my close friend of 9 years is getting married in february, and wanted to bring us (his brother plus 4 others) to a trip outside the country.

We decided on the time and date, but a couple weeks ago he said the trip was cancelled because one od the guys on the trip had a family member in hospital, and the mother of my friend had a nervous breakdown.

She has had some severe health problems, so I empathized and we agreed to do it another time.

We were supposed to go yesterday, but I noticed on his brother instagram account a champagne glass in that city...

I figured maybe he wanted to go anyways for a trip by himself..

I waited it out, and now on his brother's instagram they are posing outside in the winter snow. My friend included!

What the fuck! I'm sitting here bummed out and don't know what to do.

The first problem is that you hang out with "men" that drink champagne. Sounds like a bunch of chumps to me.

 

[Simian Raticus]

Even if you really are that much of a pain in the ass your friend is a fucking wimp and a snake for not being straight about it.

 

[TrevorRoss]

Go fuck his bride

With two other groomsmen. One for each hole. After all if it weren't for this bitch none of this would of happened.

 

[choke you]

Are you part of the wedding party? If not maybe it was just for them or you're a giant dweeb and he thought you'd buzz kill his party. Also a possibility he wanted to slam a slew of hookers and thought you'd tell the bride to be.

 

[superpunch]

Call your friend and confront him. You never know, it could be something weird you're not thinking of. Then go no contact on all of them and don't go to the wedding.

 

[skullmaskkid]

you should brow beat and guilt him into being your friend

have your mom call his mom

 

[ikareteru]

The first problem is that you hang out with "men" that drink champagne. Sounds like a bunch of chumps to me.

His brother is a fool. He tries to act way too cool.

They even picked a shitty city!

I went cause I wanted to hang out with my friend to celebrate him.

 

[Cheese]

U should have paid for everything so he would have had no choice to bring you.

 

[TrevorRoss]

Are you part of the wedding party? If not maybe it was just for them or you're a giant dweeb and he thought you'd buzz kill his party. Also a possibility he wanted to slam a slew of hookers and thought you'd tell the bride to be.

Or maybe TS is the guy that brings the hookers and the grooms wife told him to not to bring him along.

 

[ShoelessRye]

When you say "they" are posing outside for a pic in the snow - are you talking about all the others who were supposed to be going - except you? Or just the groom-to-be and brother?

If it's the latter maybe it got too expensive assuming he was paying since "he wanted to "bring us"" says to me he was paying - is that the case? If it's the case where the rest are all there then it certainly seems you were right ditched, but it's strange that they don't think you'd ever find out and tried to lie about it.

Definitely something you need to question/confront your close friend about - but wait to do it face to face to see his "busted" reaction to know the truth rather than liking the photo or something and tipping him off that you know they all still went and coming up with a story.

Seems you lost a "close friend" over this, but at least you know the truth about how he feels now and can save yourself the money you'd have blown on the wedding gift ect.

Your friend here will probably blame somebody else saying "X doesn't like you and didn't want you there" probably his brother or wife-to-be, but regardless he took a bitch way out and to me it would be something that there is no going back from.