Social Former boss trying to boycott me and not recognizing he is not my boss anymore (long read)

Rebelfett said:
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He seems like a nice guy.
 
SalvadorAllende said:
What's up sherbros. TLDR version at the end.

A couple of weeks ago I was promoted at work. I now occupy the charge of operations manager or whatever the company owner wants to call it (not a big fan of titles).

It's a small logistics/customs clearance company of about 14 people. It used to work like this:

The owner had a guy running the operations (5 people inside the office, 3 outside) and another one in finances (3 people total). Plus his brother that is developing a new service, a secretary and a few administrative.

Seeing that the relationship between the operations manager and the team was pretty bad which lead to a lot of things going south and basically everybody at the office not putting much into their work he decided to promote me to run the team.
The owner told me that the other guy made a big deal about nonsense and had everybody stressed out.
Now the other guy is supposedly going to be more on the street (going to customs and solving problems) which is the part I don't like and I'm not strong at it.
It was made explicitly clear that I'm at the same hierarchy as him.

The owner was pretty clear: I make the decisions inside. Anything regarding the people working there from incentives to punishments go through me and is 100% my choice.


Anyways. I knew this guy was going to start pulling some crap on me.

My first action was to stop a sanction that the other guy was pushing against 2 coworkers who made a human mistake that costed us literally a few bucks. He hated that.

Another example.. last week I interviewed a guy for my former position (I'm getting 2 people) and I really liked his profile. When I showed him the resume (out of cortesy, didn't had to) he said "oh, I interviewed this guy... there is something wrong about him, I can't remember what.. don't hire him".
There is a shortage of specialist in what we do (and what we can afford) and this guy is not working at the moment, has like 20 years of experience and really needs the job.
At the beggining he told me that the guy had a terrible reference from another job, then he said maybe it wasn't that and he was misremembering and he didn't like the attitude of the guy in the interview.. he said it was "too relaxed".
Hiring has been terrible in the last couple of years. I saw a lot of people passing by doing a terrible job and lasting a few months leaving us with more problems than anything.
I said fuck it and hired the guy. He is starting tomorrow.

Today I heard him talking on the phone with our clients telling basically that a guy left (an operations guy at some point they tried to make supervisor but failed at it) and that I was taking charge.. and that it was The owner > Him > Myself.

Also I just checked my emails a while ago to see an email from him directed to me and a woman that works in my area asking for explanations about a situation that happened today (which he misunderstood) and asking what we are going to do to avoid that in the future. Like I have some explaining to do to him.

Since getting promoted I tried to make him participate or at least I ask him about his thoughts on why of the decisions I'm making. I'm trying to make it easier for him but I'm tempted to blocking him out completely

This exact same thing happened to me years ago and the other guy ended up being fired when he decided to go against me.

So.. what do you guys think? at this point I have 3 options:

1) Fuck it and tell him that I don't own any explanations to him. We go to war.
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2) Cooperate with the guy and slowly making him understand I'm not there to compete with him.
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3) Wait until my area is strong enough and literally take everything away from him and leave him with only the things I don't want to do.
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TLDR Version:
Former boss can't understand I'm on his level now. Couple of days in and he is still acting like he is above me.
Should I streamroll over him like I did in a similar situation on the past or should I be the bigger man and working him slowly and peacefully until everything ends up where it should be?





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@Red Beard.This is a #workMOBtactis situation. Your input will be welcome.
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Sounds like he’s insecure about the changing power dynamic. I would ignore him and act like he’s irrelevant and the cherry on top would be to positively connect with the team that he failed to manage in such a way that it’s obvious to both him and the owner. Nothing like seeing somebody else take the reins and excel where you failed.
 
I think one of the hardest things in life is being kind to unkind people. Sometimes they’re the ones who need it most, other times they just seem bent on being miserable and trying to drag you down. I’d say keep taking the high road, sometimes enemies or just people who give us a hard time, become our strongest allies. Or just film yourself rawdogging his wife/mom/both at the same time and send him the vids. That could work.
 
Had kind of a similar situation with a man I respected very much. When it started to become an issue, I wrote him a thoughtful email thanking him for making such an impact on my life and career, but letting him know that we were now equal colleagues instead of one in charge. He appreciated it and we never had an issue again.

Just be honest, Man. He'll either be a cunt about it or he'll respect you more for it.
 
If the lines have been drawn, don't blur them.

Be decisive in your actions but seek his input on matters of mutual concern.
 
Construct a killer cyborg and send it back in time to kill the dudes mama before she gets famous. Worst case your first cyborg fails but your second model will be a dope ass liquid metal type that cant manage a sports store in newark due to crippling gambling addiction
 
Does he has a office?

If yes.

Walk in while he is busy on the phone or something.
Take out your penis.
When he noticed it give him a small nod and walk away.

He knows what up and he will never bother you again.








Disclaimer, a small peen will make it worse.
 
SalvadorAllende said:
Thanks brother.

I hate office pissing contests but don't force me into one because I will drink all the freaking water in the city and piss all over the place. lol.

I will update the story at some point. Now it's time for a shower.
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Yeah, don't do that. Slimy political moves make you look slimy.

Are you good at your job? Just be great at it and move forward. Ignore his games and politely ask him to stay in his lane if necessary, tell you have it under control. Let your bosses see that all you want to do is be great at your job.

I'm in almost exactly the same situation right now, and trust me, it's the best move. Don't let him distract you. Keep your nose clean and kick ass, and don't let him rattle you. He's already lost, unless you play games and give it back to him. He's already shown the boss he's a pain in the ass. You be the opposite. Take care of business and don't get sucked into petty politics.
 
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