First time parents..What to expect? Seeking advice from the knowledgeable.

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  1. bobby59

    bobby59 Purple Belt

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    Ok..... So... According to two pregnancy 'pee' sticks, my GF appears to be pregnant. Im keeping a calm and cool demeanor, but obviously Im a little nervous, since this was unplanned.

    I havent talked to anyone family or friends yet, and want to try and keep this relatively low key from people in my close circle.

    Im probably setting myself up posting this anywhere a Sherdogger can see this, but Im taking a chance that I wont get trolled too hard. Hopefully I will get some good answers, or "insider advice" if you will.(and yes, Im also searching other articles and references) Naturally, Im not leaving all my answers/decisions in the hands of Sherdoggers, as most of you have yet to have kids. No offense).

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    This ought to be good.... :cool:
     
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    equus Horse Belt Staff Member Senior Moderator

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    Married thread you may get more responses
     
  3. bobby59

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    yeah, you are right... I wasnt aware of a married thread.. good lookin out!
     
  4. NoGoodNamesLeft

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    pay close attention to the times when u are asleep, remember them, and cherish them. for very soon you wont get the chance to any longer.
    also, i hope u like poopoo and peepee, and crying.
    and not having money.
     
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    Get used to getting shit on Ur hands and not giving a.shit when u wipe an ass

    also potty train young
     
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    main issue is who's working and who's caring for kid.
     
  7. bobby59

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    This is a BIG deal... She works the same hours as me. so... She will need possibly quit her job....Indefinitely......

    Yeah....I make "ok" money knock on wood... but I need to be more prepared for the unknown...so I may get another job..
     
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    Who's the father?

    :icon_lol:
     
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    FyrFytr998 Too many pots on the stove.

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    Parenthood is peaks and valleys. It will never be as bad as you think it is at the time.
     
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    It's rough on a couple who only make ok money because if both decide to work one of you is probably working for nothing, it'll all go to childcare. Also, most girls hate staying home and caring for kid as their sole profession. I've battled my husband about it over the years. I didn't want to have anyone else watching my kids when they were infants, so he worked four days and I worked three.
     
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    This is good advice.
     
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    Once she told me, out of sheer shock, I caught myself before I said this. lol..
     
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    fatalis Hang yourself with a belt

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    Prepare to never sleep again
     
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    I have to remember this in times of insanity. ty.


    Together we make decent money, but thats going to be negated soon in the months ahead. As for childcare, this is something that still has to be discussed...My girl is really laid back, and seems to be fine and happy spending all day at home, but who knows how personalities can change once faced with something of this magnitude. All I know is... childcare is usually over a grand a month... so... its something that we may have to visit in the coming months.
     
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    first time father here (6 weeks Friday)! Get ready for a fucked up sleep schedule
     
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    People will give you their opinion on how to raise the child even when they are not asked.

    Massive life changing responsibility TS. You are going to have someone who is completely dependant on you for everything.

    Don't be that guy who has the Mrs doing everything for the baby, you are in a relationship so you should be prepared to get up in the middle of the night every now and then.

    Good luck and prepare for 3-6 months of no sex as well after the baby is born.
     
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    congrats!
     
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    Yeah.. This is whats been going on in my head...The fun and games appear to be over for the time being. Got to make a plan and lock it down. soo many things to prepare for... whew...wooosa...
     
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    relax and just go with the flow. You'll work it out along the way.

    Also women are VERY hormonal when pregnant. My wife when she was pregnant with our first one was batshit crazy with some of the stuff she came out with. So be prepared and understanding as that may very well happen to you.

    If I were to give you any advice it would be not to waste money on useless baby gadgets. Baby monitors are a waste of money until you live in a multiple story house. Baby heart monitors etc they are all bullshit.
     
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    Ok I'm never having children.
     

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