Fear of winning The fear of losing is very common. I certainly don’t want to disappoint my teammates, my students, or my friends and family. But, did you ever have a fear of winning? If you win there is this expectation that you will have to “do something” with your victory. It might be compared to a fear of falling in love or fear of success. I know a lot of jiu Jitsu guys who are afraid to get promoted to the next belt. All these accomplishments come with responsibility. A victory could bring you fame when what you really want is anonymity. TLDR - This is a subtle or humble brag. Also, I really crave situations where I’m a little fearful. It’s the only opportunity for me to be brave and courageous. Those are the qualities I admire.