I think mostly baptist, and evangelical. I don't know the names of the pastors they listen to. But, some of it is on the radio, and could be national.
Great, so actually we can make some good arguments for you
here are some ideas, feel free to toss them if you will. use the sandwich method stating how much you love your family, show the argument, and end showing how actually by not marrying her, you are showing real sacrificial love.
1- I realize more and more that marriage is about sacrifice for those we love. But , dear family, I am still saving myself to make the sacrifice for someone I really want to marry.
2- Dear family, I love you folks, but I really think this is not right. Marriage is a sacred covenant between man, woman in front of God. I know that you folks want the best for me but Marrying someone I don't with a child that is not mine would break the sacredness and beauty of it by living a lie.
3- (forget this one)
4- I dont see how this can be God's will. The bible speaks of wisdom, and I dont see how this decision is wise.
5- The more I undertsand the Bible, more I see that there is one Saviour, and I am not Him. I think there are better and wiser ways to deal with this than to make a sacrifice that won't save nor solve the issue.
6- I really don't think this is God's will for my life.
7- I just think that , by accepting this situation, I'll be trying to fill a gap in her heart that is already shaped like another man.
8- I read this quote from a pastor called Tim keller. It says
“Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws. Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it."
That's why, when I want to get married, I want it to have a truthful beginning. I wouldn't be able to do so in this situation