So i recently broke up with my girl friend of two years about a month or so ago and in one way or another she's keeping contact. Some things are harmless and others are just plain odd to me. Personally i cannot be friends with an ex, im not interested in maintaining some sort of relationship after a break up so i usually try to completely disconnect and she knows how i am about this (i was pretty vocal about it through out the relationship). After the first two weeks i got all her clothes out of my closet and into a bag and gave it to a mutual friend of ours to return it to her but i foolishly/accidentally placed a shirt of mine in there with it so when she saw this she immediately texted me and told me she would come and return it to me at my place. I told her to simply give it back to our mutual friend but she insisted on coming to my place. To spare you some details she sorta broke down when she came to my place saying she didn't mean to hurt me and the other usual emotionally charged statements. Fast foward 3 weeks later she texts me again asking if she can "borrow" one of my luggage's so she can go on some trip with her friend and it really started to bother me because although im good with breakups, this intermittent contact bullshit is really messing with me. I kept it as short as possible and told her to take it and just keep it and to not bother returning it. If i agree to let her borrow it i basically sign myself for another awkward meeting. She comes to my place in her car, doesn't even get out of it so i come outside, open the passenger door, stuff it in there and as she says thank you i just closed the door and walked away. In between this time she has liked a few of my instagram posts aswell. Anyways i guess i should wrap this up with a point. Firstly, we didn't end on bad terms at all, i love the girl dearly and she loves me but the relationship simply ran past its expiration date and sometimes you just have to walk away. Secondly, Im not really looking for some sort of hope that she will return to me but it is getting annoying and i guess im just here trying to find peoples opinion on the matter. Some of my freinds said she just wants a reason to see me again, some have said she wants to make sure im ok....either way i have no idea wtf is going on. Oh and a question: Can you guys remain friends with an Ex? Again, i absolutely cannot, it's in the past for me.