Someone in the family has recently died. My wife suggested we send flowers. Normally I would be on board, except there's one small problem: The deceased is a single parent and has left behind two kids under 10. A fund has been set up to accept donations. We do plan on donating to this fund, but my wife insists on sending flowers as well. I'm concerned people are going to wonder why we would send flowers instead of just giving the money to her kids. Thoughts?