you might not like the word, but it is what it is, and it doesn't mean the 'same.' what equal opportunity really means, in simple terms, is the absence of artificial barriers, not the same opportunities. with regards to athletics and title ix specifically, it means meeting proportionality, demonstrating continued expansion for the underrepresented sex, or meeting the interests and abilities of the underrepresented sex.
NO, that is what the term has been perverted to mean by opportunistic politicians and people who subscribe to the culture of victimhood. As Abraham Lincoln once said, if you call a dog's tail a "leg" that doesn't make it one. Unless of course you want to make the argument that all language is simply a means of expression and all words are open to changing interpretation, but a) you would be engaging in sophistry (in fact you've already been doing so) and b) I would counter by pointing out that the accepted meaning of the term "equal" as used by the VAST majority of the world (politicians and "victims" aside) IS synonymous with "same". So unless you want a world in which all words have no meaning and language is completely arbitrary, I'm going to stick with a definition of equality that doesn't give unequal advantages to anybody, thank you very much.
And Title IX is a disaster that has done FAR more harm than good. Or have you forgotten the primary reason why wrestling (among many other) programs all over the country have been cut?
Finally, let's cut out the nonsense about "underrepresentation" as it completely flies in the face of both statistical analysis and logic. The problem with trying to enforce "fairness" based on results rather than opportunity (which is what title IX, affirmative action, and similar laws all truly do because actually measuring "opportunity" in any objective sense is far more difficult to express in concrete terms, measure/calculate, and most importantly for a layperson to understand) is that it makes a lot of assumptions that are neither logically sound nor backed by valid data.
A simple example: if you have equal numbers of men and women within a population, more men will want to play sports than women. Now some of that may be explained by cultural conditioning (more men are encouraged to play sports), and I will be the first to say that is something that should be changed. That said, as un-PC as it is to admit these days, and keeping in mind that there is a wide range of variability in both populations, men and women ARE, in the aggregate, different. So it is quite possible (and one could argue likely), that even in the absence of cultural factors you would STILL have more men than women who want to play sports. And without somehow determining and accounting for that factor, any comparison based on straight numbers is statistically and logically unsound.
Let's make things even clearer. Suppose that there is true equal opportunity. This could happen in one of two ways: either gender is not considered at all and the best athletes of either gender make the team for each sport, or sports are segregated by gender but each sport has both a mens and a womens team. I think most rational people could agree that at least one of those could be considered an ideal example of equal opportunity.
We all know what would happen in the first case: the vast majority of spots would be filled by men. So we have a situation which is completely blind to gender, but very few women end up playing sports. OK, so let's have separate mens and womens teams, ignoring for the moment the fact that this is already an unequal advantage enjoyed by women since smaller/weaker men at a similar physical level as those women don't get their own leagues in which to play, but I digress. Every sport has mens and womens teams - fair, right? But will there be enough women interested to field a football team? Probably not, and considering football has by far the largest team size of any sport you're looking at the primary reason why there are more men playing sports in college. The same is true of wrestling: some women may be interested in it (and good for them), but not enough to sustain a league. Football isn't going to be cut, as it's too popular and brings in too much money. Wrestling, on the other hand, doesn't have those advantages, so in the name of "fairness" the mens team gets cut because there aren't enough interested women for most schools to have a womens team.
As you can see, even if the opportunity is there, there's no guarantee that it will be taken advantage of. And that is why you can't look strictly at numbers and decree that some group is "underrepresented" without looking at the assumptions you are making (namely that there is equal interest which without some form of discrimination occurring would lead to equal results, and must therefore by "corrected") and making sure that they are sound.