Does your girl care if you watch porn?

[hohner]

Yup.. topless lesbians kissing is really the gateway to trannies in donkey shows..

Dying here.. thanks dude..

Its a slippery slope, often literally.

That's why I only watch porn in the bathroom with the door locked.

Nothing worse than an interrupted donkey show.

You went from the softest core to the most extreme there. What if she caught you watching regular 35 year old dude fucking a 19 year old chick porn?

First off, a tranny donkey show might not exactly be mainstream, buy it is definitely not the most extreme.

Second off, if she caught me watching a dude nailing a chick she would laugh and we would probably end up having sex.

 

[Drain Bamage]

EDIT: Women also tend to let THEIR hangups and insecurities get in the way of the romance.

This is so true. God damn. I was with this one girl I thought was hot as hell but she had hangups about her "curvyness" She was Asian but a little thicc, in a good way for me, but I guess she just wanted to be typical super skiny Asian girl but it wasn't in her genes. Anyways, she wouldn't get in a relationship with me because "She knew eventually I would cheat on her"....

Like just pre-emptively cancelled any possibility of romance because she predicted I would cheat on her in the future.

I look on her Facebook every once in a while and she's still single and this was years ago and I just wonder if she does this with every guy.

 

[Hatorade]

dude she was 37 and single for a reason. why waste your time?

They're all fucking crazy to some degree. They're just crazy in different ways. Most of my friends wives and GFs are fucking bonkers even in front of an audience. My dad used to tell me that you find the one you can handle the easiest, but know that if you hold a woman's mental stability to that of another man, you're going to be very disappointed in life. He also used to say that women aren't crazy, they just behave like women. For what it's worth, my stepmom was the most sane woman I've ever met. My dad was a lucky guy in that regard. He was married to a 1950's Stepford wife. My biological mom was a monster from what I've been told by other family members. I was a little kid when they separated, but my brother particularly says that she was just awful to our dad.

 

[Badger67]

Id have dumped that bitch so fast OP. Go fuck her friends.

 

[Omegaboy13]

I've had girlfriends get mad in the past about it. Generally don't care, and just appease them through the conversation, then just go back to watching porn later.

My wife may or may not know I watch porn, and I don't care either way. I'm discreet enough about it and she has never asked in the 7 years we've been together. She has told me that she finds porn weird and the idea of getting off watching other people have sex who don't love each other for money is generally repulsive.

 

[phoenixikki]

Don't waste your precious time with left-over broads. Once they get past a certain age it's simply too much baggage.

 

[Provocateur]

My wife may or may not know I watch porn, and I don't care either way. I'm discreet enough about it and she has never asked in the 7 years we've been together.

Same for me. I assume she knows why I take 45 minute showers, but we don't really discuss it.

 

[Based and White Pilled]

She hangs out alone with dudes who want to bang her and she gets insecure about you watching porn?

Time to pull the plug, my friend.

 

[Cherry Brigand]

If porn is more important than the person you're with, I've got news for you. You're the problem, not her.

 

[Based and White Pilled]

Porn use has kind of had an odd history in my marriage. There was an incident shortly after our second child was born. She was hormonal, had baby weight, and we hadn't been banging a lot due to the last couple months of pregnancy followed by a C section. I was watching a lot of porn during this time. My wife found a bunch of porn tabs open on my phone once and naturally got upset. She only acted angry for a bit. Then it turned to sad and insecure, which was totally understandable given the circumstances.

Now, a few years later, her sex drive has bounced back and I never watch porn unless I'm away from home for more than a few days. With the return of her physique and her confidence, I don't think she would care about me watching porn as long as she was still getting hers.

I think it's funny that when I watched porn, it upset her, but now that I'm not watching porn she probably wouldn't care if I was.

Spoiler

on a side note, I think all the criticism of the porn industry is totally valid and the world would probably be better off without it.

 

[Renard]

At the of the day it's all about framing. In her mind she views porn as this evil thing that demeans women, which you're a participant in, and she reacts accordingly to that belief. That's the core issue: not the porn itself but the negative things she's associating with it. You could try explaining to her that you watch it for horniness reasons, some videos are erotic / sensual and you like that, you don't demean women or think you're superior to them, etc. Basically try to cast doubt and break the link between porn and the bad things she automatically assumes are linked to it. That's a cognitive therapy technique. If someone is afraid of dogs you don't tell them "Yes you're right dogs are scary," you put them in front of a dog until they realize all the bad things they thought would happen ("The dog will bite me!") don't happen and they were off the mark.

 

[Ichibanner]

If porn is more important than the person you're with, I've got news for you. You're the problem, not her.

You're okay with the non-wife giving him a "stop 'bating" order because she's insecure about him viewing women he doesn't know and will never meet? Dude's probably been spanking it to various forms of media for two decades or more.

It's not like he started doing it when they began dating. If it was such a "no deal" to her she should have broached the subject when things got serious.

 

[Based and White Pilled]

If porn is more important than the person you're with, I've got news for you. You're the problem, not her.

If you think making ultimatums over everything is appropriate, you're an immature moron. Every disagreement doesn't have to come down to something being more important than the partner.

People like you are annoying AF.

Idiot: "XYZ is more important to you than I am!"
Idiot's reasonable partner: "No... I'd like to have both and don't see any reason that I shouldn't be able to. Please tell me why I can't."

 

[Hatorade]

If porn is more important than the person you're with, I've got news for you. You're the problem, not her.

Porn ain't the issue young man. Being told what to do is. That and the double standard of her lap dog male friends that probably say the same stupid shit as you just did because they have no balls.

 

[aerius]

My wife doesn't really care, she just pretends to be upset with me on general principle.

 

[terrapin]

So I entered a new relationship a few months back and last night I got into the topic of porn with my GF. She went off about how dehumanizing porn is and all the same shit most chicks say about porn. At one point, she asked me if I watched porn, and I said "well yeah" as if it was a silly question, and she lost her fucking shit. I told her it wasn't a daily thing, but that I watched porn once in a while if she wasn't around, and I was at my own place. She literally couldn't wrap her head around it and claims that it's just the same as cheating. This is a girl that's been in open relationships before and done anything you could ever think of in the bedroom. That's why I was like huh? It was really odd and took me off guard.

Anyways, we proceeded to get in a huge argument where she claimed that porn was now destroying our relationship because she feels like I only see her as an object or a tool now. She's PMS city at the moment, so I'm taking everything she says with a grain of salt, but I would bet this was somewhat of a real argument and will probably continue a bit once she's back to normal.

One of the things she said was that if I don't give up porn, she doesn't want to be with me because it makes her feel insecure. I told her that I would give up watching any porn if she quit hanging out with male friends that she has flat out said are in love with her because it makes me feel insecure (it doesn't, but I was trying to make a point). Obviously, this almost made her head explode, as she sees her opposite sex friendships as being completely acceptable even if said friend is sweet on her unlike porn. She even posed the question as to how I would feel if she were watching porn only to have me say "I would not give a shit whatsoever."

The crazy part about all this is that this woman is 37 years old. Like, this is shit you get into when you're in HS or college. At almost 40, you would think these arguments about porn, male friends etc wouldn't exist.
I know damn well if I had a female friend that was moderately attractive that had conceded that she had a crush on me that also talked shit about my girl on the regular, My GF would lose her fucking mind. Like that shit wouldn't even be a discussion. The double standards with all this are just laughable.

you should stop watching porn and she should quit hanging out with guys that want to fuck her and you should both make a go at it for real.

porn is evil and bad for everyone and nobody should be watching it. if she did not hang with guys who want to fuck her and you would not quit watching porn then you are saying porn is more important to you than her feelings are.

 

[Phlog]

There's plenty of ethical porn available of that's the issue.

If she's worried about you comparing her to the porn models tell her you compare her to the whole of womankind all the time and you've chosen to be with her because she is the best of them willing to fuck you.

Wait, don't say that.

 

[Cpt Migraine]

At the of the day it's all about framing. In her mind she views porn as this evil thing that demeans women, which you're a participant in, and she reacts accordingly to that belief. That's the core issue: not the porn itself but the negative things she's associating with it. You could try explaining to her that you watch it for horniness reasons, some videos are erotic / sensual and you like that, you don't demean women or think you're superior to them, etc. Basically try to cast doubt and break the link between porn and the bad things she automatically assumes are linked to it. That's a cognitive therapy technique. If someone is afraid of dogs you don't tell them "Yes you're right dogs are scary," you put them in front of a dog until they realize all the bad things they thought would happen ("The dog will bite me!") don't happen and they were off the mark.

This applies to a child that you care about.. not an adult.. (oh and don't let children know you're watching porn btw.. the dog thing)

If the chick needs cognitive therapy from the man she's seeing about porn she's to fucking dumb to be relationship material..

 

[Hatorade]

you should stop watching porn and she should quit hanging out with guys that want to fuck her and you should both make a go at it for real.

porn is evil and bad for everyone and nobody should be watching it. if she did not hang with guys who want to fuck her and you would not quit watching porn then you are saying porn is more important to you than her feelings are.

Nah, if something as trivial as watching porn once a week is repulsive to a woman that's probably fucked a 100 dudes, had threesomes, attended sex parties etc..........I'm going to pull the cord.

This is nothing more than a control issue and insecurity. I've noticed this behavior a couple other times when she was PMSing. She freaked out that I was going to watch a football game with an out of town buddy at a bar instead of watching it at home. She said that the only reason I wanted to go to the sports bar down the street was because of the cute bartender. The actual reason was because my buddy is going through a divorce and wanted to vent.

 

[BB in Crazy!!!!]

She’s nuts. My first wife said the same thing about porn being basically cheating. It was her way of justifying the fact she had actually been cheating on me. Trying to say it was basically the same thing. Yeah, me fapping to women on a screen is the same as having another guy bang you in our bed while I’m away on a regular basis.