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So I entered a new relationship a few months back and last night I got into the topic of porn with my GF. She went off about how dehumanizing porn is and all the same shit most chicks say about porn. At one point, she asked me if I watched porn, and I said "well yeah" as if it was a silly question, and she lost her fucking shit. I told her it wasn't a daily thing, but that I watched porn once in a while if she wasn't around, and I was at my own place. She literally couldn't wrap her head around it and claims that it's just the same as cheating. This is a girl that's been in open relationships before and done anything you could ever think of in the bedroom. That's why I was like huh? It was really odd and took me off guard.
Anyways, we proceeded to get in a huge argument where she claimed that porn was now destroying our relationship because she feels like I only see her as an object or a tool now. She's PMS city at the moment, so I'm taking everything she says with a grain of salt, but I would bet this was somewhat of a real argument and will probably continue a bit once she's back to normal.
One of the things she said was that if I don't give up porn, she doesn't want to be with me because it makes her feel insecure. I told her that I would give up watching any porn if she quit hanging out with male friends that she has flat out said are in love with her because it makes me feel insecure (it doesn't, but I was trying to make a point). Obviously, this almost made her head explode, as she sees her opposite sex friendships as being completely acceptable even if said friend is sweet on her unlike porn. She even posed the question as to how I would feel if she were watching porn only to have me say "I would not give a shit whatsoever."
The crazy part about all this is that this woman is 37 years old. Like, this is shit you get into when you're in HS or college. At almost 40, you would think these arguments about porn, male friends etc wouldn't exist.
I know damn well if I had a female friend that was moderately attractive that had conceded that she had a crush on me that also talked shit about my girl on the regular, My GF would lose her fucking mind. Like that shit wouldn't even be a discussion. The double standards with all this are just laughable.
Anyways, we proceeded to get in a huge argument where she claimed that porn was now destroying our relationship because she feels like I only see her as an object or a tool now. She's PMS city at the moment, so I'm taking everything she says with a grain of salt, but I would bet this was somewhat of a real argument and will probably continue a bit once she's back to normal.
One of the things she said was that if I don't give up porn, she doesn't want to be with me because it makes her feel insecure. I told her that I would give up watching any porn if she quit hanging out with male friends that she has flat out said are in love with her because it makes me feel insecure (it doesn't, but I was trying to make a point). Obviously, this almost made her head explode, as she sees her opposite sex friendships as being completely acceptable even if said friend is sweet on her unlike porn. She even posed the question as to how I would feel if she were watching porn only to have me say "I would not give a shit whatsoever."
The crazy part about all this is that this woman is 37 years old. Like, this is shit you get into when you're in HS or college. At almost 40, you would think these arguments about porn, male friends etc wouldn't exist.
I know damn well if I had a female friend that was moderately attractive that had conceded that she had a crush on me that also talked shit about my girl on the regular, My GF would lose her fucking mind. Like that shit wouldn't even be a discussion. The double standards with all this are just laughable.
