Decision to give birth to disabled child - your opinion

[Panmisiek]

If you knew your child will be disabled, would you still opt to have it or have it aborted.

I am not using term severely or mildly disabled. Disabled means disabled, any condition that won't make life of this child normal and will require 24/7 care.

Also what if mother wants a child and father not, and then they decide to split? How is that regulated in your country? I honestly feel both parents should have a say, and saying woman have bigger say is bullshit to me.

Father have to pay for children benefit or whatever it is called in your country so should have the same say in the matter.

Returning to subject. No, I would never ever allow for my child to be born with any health defect that would prevent him or her having normal life.

 

[Social Distance Warrior]

I would love my child unconditionally regardless, and prepare them for how incredibly cruel and wicked this world can be.

I would surround my child with family and friends who would accept him/her as they are, and not judge them due to a disability.

if it takes years off my life, and compounds my stress, it's a price I'm willing to pay.

 

[heavyarms21]

My Nephew has Autism , I love the little guy and my Boy takes good care of him too. Life doesn't always give people the best hands , you just have to accept your draw and do the best for your kids , that's exactly what my Bpether is doing for him and I help when the family is together.

 

[gspieler]

The degree of the disability is obviously relevant IMO. There's a pretty big difference between a child with a mild disability who can go on the lead a fulfilling life, or even a moderate disability who can still find some joy out of life, and one with a severe disability that will be in constant severe pain/suffering, and have no chance of living an even remotely tolerable life.

 

[IloveTHIS]

Id abort it with the quickness. Zero thought.

 

[is normal]

I abort healthy babies, would definitely not want this. Unless I was going after that sweet disability money. Jk about the last bit

 

[SuwoopBangin]

I'd rather abort the child. It's unfair to the child to choose to bring it into this world with a disability that would hinder it for its entire life.

 

[hillelslovak87]

I would abort. The chain linking parent and child is not formed before birth like when the child is alive. I would spare the conceptual child the suffering.

 

[spin]

requiring care 24/7 for its whole life?


abort.

 

[BEER]

First of all, it's up to women because you don't have to carry the fetus in your body for 9 months, you fucking mongoloid.

Second of all, I support abortion for any reason whatsoever because, repeat after me: As a man, I have no say.

 

[Loiosh]

As a man, I have no say.

I want so badly to say you're wrong, but you're not.

It's terrible that we have no say but it would be so much worse if we did.

 

[Cherry Brigand]

First of all, it's up to women because you don't have to carry the fetus in your body for 9 months, you fucking mongoloid.

Second of all, I support abortion for any reason whatsoever because, repeat after me: As a man, I have no say.

You sound beta.

 

[JerichoMelenko]

kill it...i mean abort it

 

[WandySaku2]

Abort. If it was some autism or down's syndrome, they can still enjoy life, but going through with a pregnancy where the child won't be able to function mentally or have a severe physical issue etc. is some kind of weird selfishness. Why do that to a child.

 

[all caps]

This is a great question. And I couldn't give you an honest answer right now. And that makes me think less of myself

 

[all caps]

I would abort. The chain linking parent and child is not formed before birth like when the child is alive. I would spare the conceptual child the suffering.

Aborting gives it no chance though..

Edit - ya sneaky bastard. Edited before I could respond

 

[SaigeVanZant]

 

[BEER]

You sound beta.

Wow what a rebuttal

 

[hillelslovak87]

Aborting gives it no chance though..

Edit - ya sneaky bastard. Edited before I could respond

Piss belt, bro. Can't edit.

 

[ralphc1]

I've often wondered what I would do in such a situation. I've known people who have children with disabilities and the child is likely to outlive the parents which leaves the responsibility for care to someone else. There was one older mentally retarded man that the local high school athletic teams kind of adopted as a manager. He was in his 50s and his mother was in her 80s. His father left when he was very young. I always wondered what happened to him when his mother died.

I know people who take care of a mentally disabled man who is in his 30s but looks and acts more like a 4 or 5 year old child. Apparently his parents gave him up and the state placed him in the foster system.

I've wondered if I had a genetic disorder if I would want to have children if it could be passed down. Just over a year ago I found out that I have an atrial septal defect which is genetic and has a 50% chance of being passed on. My first thought was I'm glad I didn't have any children that I know of. I would feel very guilty if I caused a defect.