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Cut all of those friends out of your life.
For reference watch the movie CASINO
For reference watch the movie CASINO
Can you talk about this some more? Let's start on a scale of one to ten. How guilty would you be if he killed himself and you weren't there? Do you think you'd be at that level for how long? Would it ever diminish, or do you think it would be level 9000 for the rest of your life? Either way, could you cope with that?... I would feel really guilty if this dude killed himself and I wasn’t there for him.
Idk man. I really don't know. It sounds like you're rationalizing the really mean things you said in the first post.I’m stating facts. I’m probably the most patient person to him ever. I know it’s hard to believe from a random stranger over the internet but yeah. He’s probably really close to clinically mentally retarded so calling him retarded isn’t an insult. Pretty sure the legal definition is iq < 80
Biscuits is cool bra. I know where he's coming from. I'm the crazy person that no one wants anything to do with, and I don't blame them.Idk man. I really don't know. It sounds like you're rationalizing the really mean things you said in the first post.
I know people that do talk like that and a lot of their friends end up in shitty places but the common factor in those situations is them. They are a bad influence on peoples lives. That guy I'm referencing is a lawyer now and it's literally his job to be a bad influence on peoples lives now and he has it all rationalized in his head. I don't know if you're like him or not but it does sound like it.
Cut all of those friends out of your life.
For reference watch the movie CASINO
Biscuits is cool bra. I know where he's coming from. I'm the crazy person that no one wants anything to do with, and I don't blame them.
That’s funny you use the word demon. I used the word monsters to describe their alternate personalitiesI don't know. I've had friends with addictions or untreated mental illness and I guess they're really not themselves, or I hate to say but hardly even people -- it's like they're part demon where part of their soul used to be, while in the grip of it. Like it's hard to even carry on a conversation. But it's gotta be different case by case.
I would say not to abandon this person but to restrict your interactions with them. If you are constantly saving them from getting into fights then stop going places with them where they are likely to get into a fight. No bars, clubs, etc. Only agree to hang out with them if they stay clean and sober.
Yeah I guess very limited interaction is better than nothing. It’s hard to find a balance between ignoring a guys phone calls and not thoughCan you talk about this some more? Let's start on a scale of one to ten. How guilty would you be if he killed himself and you weren't there? Do you think you'd be at that level for how long? Would it ever diminish, or do you think it would be level 9000 for the rest of your life? Either way, could you cope with that?
Then, what are possible alternatives? Again, apply the 1-10 scale, but this time towards realistic contingencies. For instance, most of us want our problems to magically go away without effort. This would usually rank a 1 on the scale of probability, being the least likely resolution. Your options cannot be limited to 1) he kills himself and 2) you must bear his responsibilities forever; you can't think of anything in between those two realities?
Man that’s sad, don’t say that about yourself. You seem really cool on these forums.Biscuits is cool bra. I know where he's coming from. I'm the crazy person that no one wants anything to do with, and I don't blame them.
I actually have heaps of friends, it's not hard to get people to like you, but when they get to know what I'm really like they are like "oh shit" exit stage left. Did I tell you about the time I had a scooter chucked at me. Also the local police think I'm a bit of a legend and i get on ok with them. It's not my fault I have "self defenced" a heap of scumbags. Did I tell you about the time I broke someone's jaw and the judge and prosecutor were practically laughing about it. I escaped with a non conviction...By your stories literally everyone wants to be involved with you lol
I’m stating facts. I’m probably the most patient person to him ever. I know it’s hard to believe from a random stranger over the internet but yeah. He’s probably really close to clinically mentally retarded so calling him retarded isn’t an insult. Pretty sure the legal definition is iq < 80
Not really I have been having a minor mental melt down with this covid shit, among other things. I have also punched out half the local football team, which tends to create a certain "stigma". I live in a small country town, and I was a nerd in high school, the major problem was I became a fight nerd. When I got older they tried to continue their shit and got fucked up. It's a lose lose situation really. That is why I laugh some much when people start talking self defence on the street. Violence can be a very dark path and nearly all dangerous situations can be avoided. And when shit really goes down a weapon and some training or petrol and a lighter are vastly superior to any martial art skill. The thought of a chick using bjj against a rapist always bemused me.Man that’s sad, don’t say that about yourself. You seem really cool on these forums.
Yeah I guess very limited interaction is better than nothing. It’s hard to find a balance between ignoring a guys phone calls and not though