One time I met with his "best friend" to get some weed, it was the first time Edward wasn't present, and the guy told me straight up that him and his mother were talking about how he does that to everyone at the house, disagrees with everyone, but when he gets proven wrong, changes the version of his story to yours. To not look like he was wrong.
We decided to go for a workout the day of the wedding, and I was working out hard, no breaks, super setting, and he seemed annoyed by that. So I kept doing it.Just buy lots of jewelry and flash it in this persons face
When you talk about yourself, he seems extremely uninterested, which makes listening to him very difficult.
That was implied briefly, but the story does not tell, if it was even then one guy who would have prefered to chill and another who prefered to chit-chat. (I could have this dynamic dead wrong off course based on just two sentences.) It was also said, that Edward acted completely different in different social situations with more people around (=more space to withdraw from the conversation when needed).
Have known a few people like that but the two worst examples was an ex landscaping boss when I was 19. Me and the other guy finally noticed after a few weeks and then would start the mornings with the most outlandish stories and watch him squirm trying to one up is every time. The guy just couldn’t help it and words would just blurt out.
I'm convinced every workplace or circle of friends & acquaintances has at least one person like the above. If they're not too annoying we generally let them be, but past a certain point we start playing with them to see what kind of absurd stuff they'll come up with. Unfortunately I'm not quick witted enough in person to get the best & most hilarious results.
Looks like I'm in no-win situation trying to defend people who are known for insisting to win an argument by any no matter what and I would also be the only one with skin in the game having to relate on personal stuff. I do still think that there's a lot truth in what you say, but that your view is too narrow.And my response to that is that these are people who crave attention. In large groups of people they can be superficially charming and draw people to them. With large groups, the conversation is often superficial. The number of people involved means that very few exchanges require any conversational depth. That means that a self-centered individual can be interesting at that level by flitting from topic to topic and from person to person. They aren't tasked with being deeply engaged with the person they're talking to at that moment.
It's when the group drops down to 2 or 3 people that the issues comes into play. In a small group, the conversation doesn't change topics as much and so an individual's superficial nature becomes more apparent. You can be superficial without making everything about yourself though. Someone can be tangential, they can miss the point, they can tune out for stretches of time. Okay, that's just being a bad conversationalist.
It's when the person relates everything back to themselves in some way that you know that it's more than just not being a good conversationalist. And that happens in 2 ways - either they've done everything you're talking about and instead of listening to your experience they talk about theirs (you went on a hot air balloon, they went on a bigger balloon in a better place). Or they change the subject from your experience to their experience in something that's only remotely related (you went on a hot air balloon so they start talking about the time they blew up balloons in science class). In either case, the point is that they constantly shift the conversation to their experiences with little interest in your experiences except as a bridge to more conversation about themselves.
Looks like I'm in no-win situation trying to defend people who are known for insisting to win an argument by any no matter what and I would also be the only one with skin in the game having to relate on personal stuff. I do still think that there's a lot truth in what you say, but that your view is too narrow.
Hi, I’m Edward. Thanks, TS. I was planning on making a thread about my friend who is a moron and wrong about everything, but thanks for saving me the time.