Can you forgive someone who murdered your love ones?

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  1. RowdyLesnar Pumpin' & Dumpin' Threads

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    This one made me cry, man. I don't think I can ever do that. I'm not strong. <2>

    Another one.

     
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    No, unless it was a freak accident with no recklessness and no intent to kill, I wouldn't forgive.

    You forgive if someone steps on your foot, spills a drink, or bumps in to you. Petty everyday shit.

    Murder is serious stuff that can't just be brushed aside.
     
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  4. deadshot138 Silver Belt

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    Only after I've murdered them in return.
     
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    I'm in favor for death penalty for murderers on general, unless there are reasonable circumstances for a lesser punishment
     
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    I've only recently become mature enough to realise forgiveness is something that benefits the "forgiver" as well as the "forgivee"; that if you actually manage to honestly forgive someone, you are released from your nagging feelings of anger and resentment towards them.

    However, I don't think I'm mature enough to forgive a murderer just yet.
     
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    Unfortunately, I'd need to take something they cared about first.
     
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    Probably not.
     
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    forgiveness? probably not, but then who am I to offer anyone forgiveness

    the ability to move on and not let the anger overwhelm me? I think so
     
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    I'll go full law abiding citizen except racist Jamie Foxx dies.
     
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  13. Hellowhosthat If he dies he dies

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    Absolutely not, if anyone murdered my daughter I'd spend the 25 years they were inside researching and preparing the most creative and horrific suffering filled death possible for when they get released.
     
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    I was kind of leaning this way myself.

    An accident, yea ,maybe forgive.

    Murder my family ? I'm thinking old testament here , not new.
     
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    No, and frankly I always thought the notion 'forgiveness is strength' is Christian brainwashing with the aim of the elites exerting control over justice-- with the happy byproduct it makes for good statecraft, and generally yields a more happy populace overall. By that I mean it is greatly inconvenient to peace to have the plebs running around exacting revenge. Vengeance inevitably escalates, and ensnares ever more people. Doesn't take long before your in a land of warlords waging perpetual war. Better to teach people that there is some sort of divine grace in forgiving those who grievously transgress against them.

    Either way, the State can't tolerate individuals arbitrating their own sense of justice. So it also makes the bitter pill of having the shape of justice dictated to the aggrieved easier to swallow; perhaps the kernel of truth to the cliche that letting go of anger keeps it from eating one up from the inside. Because one is impotent to act on that anger against the might of the State. After all, history doesn't seem so rich with royals-- including the Christian kind-- who forgave those whom murdered their loved ones when they were in a position of martial supremacy.

    But I suppose this is just a cynical outlook.
     
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    Depends on the circumstances…Depends on how spiritually strong or weak I am at the time..
     
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    Stormin' Norman put it best,

    "I believe forgiving them is God's function. It's our job to arrange the meeting".
     
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    No, I'm not forgiving them for murder. Screw them.
     
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    Depends on the loved one.
     
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    Short Answer : No

    Long Answer : Hell NO
     
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