Don't stop with just bjj. Why do you think gym memberships require one year commitment. Place is packed in January. Ghost town by march. People don't want to put in the work.
There is a regular gym in the front part of where we train. We were laughing yesterday that we're about to get the majority of sign ups next week.
There's a core group of maybe half a dozen kids I see in there lifting consistently. They are there even on weekend nights and stuff. No shock that they all look pretty big and strong. That's probably because they are in there lifting while other kids are out drinking and stuff.
It's not exactly a mystery. But most kids would rather be out drinking. So they do that instead and get different results.
I have guys in BJJ tell me that they want to take it to the next level. I suggest that they start competing some. That's probably the most consistent, proven way to up your game for a bunch of reasons.
"Nah, competing isn't for me. It's just not for me."
"Okay. You realize that you're willingly giving up one of the most powerful tools you have to accelerate your development. But we can just take that you don't compete as a given and try to work around that.
Obviously you are busy with work and other commitments. Rather than taking your X times a week training schedule and turning it into 2X which will be extremely difficult, how about just coming X times per week like you already do but doing some additional study and analysis outside of class? That way you can plan things out, analyze video, etc. during downtime at work, and you can use your X mat time just for the physical stuff that you can't do anywhere else."
"Nah, I already have a job. I don't want training to feel like a second one. I don't want to be doing homework for class. I just want to show up."
"Okay. Well how about you just show up, but instead of Move of the Day, you're advanced enough you can switch to Move of the Month. We'll just agree on something you need to work on, and then you can just drill that for a whole month every time it is your turn to drill."
"Okay sounds great!"
Then after like two classes in, I'm showing Move of the Day to someone else. And lo and behold, Move of the Month guy stops to come over and sit and watch.
"Hey Move of the Month guy, I thought we agreed to put you on Move of the Month. You should go practice that."
"Yeah but you were showing something cool to other people. I want to see too. I don't want to miss out on anything!"
I just tell myself sometimes it takes time with people. Maybe they'll come around. Maybe they won't.