Relationships Can a gothic or heavy metal girl be with a regular dude?

[Osculater]

Yes and vice versa

 

[philcrow]

Sometimes some nice surprises under all those goth clothes. And sometimes also not pleasant smells. Pierce your nips already and go for it.

 

[Osculater]

I was seeing a Gothic lady for a while years ago - in my early 20s. She was a nutcase and so were all of her friends. She was on heavy meds, her male friend was a cross dresser, other female friends were somewhere on the spectrum. I turned her gay when we broke up, then I effectively brought her back about 5 years later when we hooked up again. I thought she had matured as she dressed and behaved better, but I quickly realised she was still a nutcase.

This one time we went mountain biking together. She picked me up in her car for the hour long drive to the trail. I hadn't eaten so I grabbed an apple and banana as we were leaving my place. I start crunching on the apple in her car and she just comments that she doesn't allow people to eat in her car. I thought she was joking so just kept eating. I finish the apple and we're waiting at a set of traffic lights, me just holding the core in my hand. She says 'throw the core out the window'. I reply 'nah, I'm the type of game that does that and bang out of nowhere a police car appears, so no I'll just hold it till we get to the trail'. She gets the green and goes through the lights and pulls to the side of the road. She then demands that I throw the core out the window. I refuse. We have a stalemate for a few minutes and she resumes driving.

We get to the trail and I make a point of putting my apple core in the rubbish bin. Now I was under the impression she was a good rider. She rode to work everyday and would always be bragging about how awesome she was and how she was going to kick my arse on the trail. She couldn't ride for shit. These were pretty tame flowing single track - totally beginner level and she's overusing her brakes. So I try and give her a few pointers and then slowly ride. She was literally riding at slow jog pace. So I go ahead and wait for her at the trail head. We take off again and I get to the next trail head, barely 1km away. I take a leak while waiting, wait another 5 minutes and she doesn't show. I thought she may have fallen off so I ride back and she's nowhere. So I follow the trail back to the car and she's at her car frantically trying to remove her front wheel to put the bike in her car. I said 'you were going to leave me here weren't you'? She denies it. We have a long silent drive back to my place. She was then completely shocked and psychotic when I immediately broke it off with her.

Loser! If you don't love her at her worst, then you don't deserve her at her best.

I'm joking and she might had murdered you in your sleep.

 

[Lycandroid]

Yes the absolutely can, these days so many of the goth/metal chicks aren't even into the music or the culture whatsoever, it's just the look.

That being said judging by your posts you and regular dudes don't even live in the same universe.

Metal/goth is a funny look, it can make hot girls absolutely stunning, but on an average or even slightly ugly you are creating a vomit inducing goblin.

 

[BoogerDawson]

 

[The Dark Knight]

Met my wife in a goth club she had purple hair and pigtails and is 5'1 (i am 6'1) Smartest person i know with 3 college degrees and went back to get her PhD at 44. Also a freak in the sack Here is a pic of the 2 of us

 

[TheNinja]

Another make believe story about some girl "obsessed" with you? Give it a break guy, everyone knows you're full of shit at this point. Probably time to make another account.

Ya. I’m gonna put TS on my block list at this point.

 

[liner]

I was seeing a Gothic lady for a while years ago - in my early 20s. She was a nutcase and so were all of her friends. She was on heavy meds, her male friend was a cross dresser, other female friends were somewhere on the spectrum. I turned her gay when we broke up, then I effectively brought her back about 5 years later when we hooked up again. I thought she had matured as she dressed and behaved better, but I quickly realised she was still a nutcase.

This one time we went mountain biking together. She picked me up in her car for the hour long drive to the trail. I hadn't eaten so I grabbed an apple and banana as we were leaving my place. I start crunching on the apple in her car and she just comments that she doesn't allow people to eat in her car. I thought she was joking so just kept eating. I finish the apple and we're waiting at a set of traffic lights, me just holding the core in my hand. She says 'throw the core out the window'. I reply 'nah, I'm the type of game that does that and bang out of nowhere a police car appears, so no I'll just hold it till we get to the trail'. She gets the green and goes through the lights and pulls to the side of the road. She then demands that I throw the core out the window. I refuse. We have a stalemate for a few minutes and she resumes driving.

We get to the trail and I make a point of putting my apple core in the rubbish bin. Now I was under the impression she was a good rider. She rode to work everyday and would always be bragging about how awesome she was and how she was going to kick my arse on the trail. She couldn't ride for shit. These were pretty tame flowing single track - totally beginner level and she's overusing her brakes. So I try and give her a few pointers and then slowly ride. She was literally riding at slow jog pace. So I go ahead and wait for her at the trail head. We take off again and I get to the next trail head, barely 1km away. I take a leak while waiting, wait another 5 minutes and she doesn't show. I thought she may have fallen off so I ride back and she's nowhere. So I follow the trail back to the car and she's at her car frantically trying to remove her front wheel to put the bike in her car. I said 'you were going to leave me here weren't you'? She denies it. We have a long silent drive back to my place. She was then completely shocked and psychotic when I immediately broke it off with her.

I like this story. I bet if you had ridden slowly with her, the sex would have been great. It does sound like she was gonna leave you there. I want to date a crazy girl like this just to see what she'd do. How interesting

I think you are weird for not tossing the apple core out the window. I eat an apple everyday into work and always toss it out

 

[Contempt]

I dont get what they see in regular guys that attracts them. Arent we attracted to similiarites?

I had a gothic girl classmate get psychotic about me. Felt like I was in the twilight zone. All she did was sit next to me at the table when I talked up a storm. We never said a word to each other in 2 years.

Had other chances with some heavy metal girl which are also wildly different from me.

Could a regular guy like myself be a good match with either of these characters? Should I give it a chance next time?

They arent my nr 1 fit looks wise.. but not the worst thing in the world...

Fuck it, why not? I'm a giant heavy metal guy, that's into fighting, working out and doing whatever crazy shit that I can... but have always been attracted to the sweet "good girl" type and somehow that relationship dynamic seems to work.

Life is short, no point sitting around and wondering about "what if?".

 

[TXstriker]

Once a girl is with a “normal” guy long enough she’ll become “normalized” eventually.
It can backfire though. If you let her run the show and you’re sad and weak you’ll turn into a gothic simp yourself.

 

[Intermission]

Once a girl is with a “normal” guy long enough she’ll become “normalized” eventually.
It can backfire though. If you let her run the show and you’re sad and weak you’ll turn into a gothic simp yourself.

Funny you should write that. My best friend changed his clothing to some sort of metal after his girlfriends influence. I always found that incredibly weak and girly. He was never that guy before

 

[Swamps]

She will do anal,
but a pain in the ass to deal with.

might also cheat on you.

Yeah, and chances are you can nail her equally slutty sister if she does! Or both at the same time.

They also like being pissed on.

 

[TheChance]

*sigh

 

[Batjester]

Nobody here believes you are over 18.

 

[ChrisBenoit]

She will do anal,
but a pain in the ass to deal with.

might also cheat on you.

I matched with a goth chicken on bumble and she gave me a BJ on the first date and wanted to eat my ass. I told her no thank you though

 

[Lycandroid]

Funny you should write that. My best friend changed his clothing to some sort of metal after his girlfriends influence. I always found that incredibly weak and girly. He was never that guy before

he realized metal is awesome, smart guy

 

[Jack Reacheround]

Of course they can. They all end up turning into the same soccer mom in their thirties anyway.

 

[lsa]

Just let her doggie you from behind and assert dominance.
It worked for you before.

 

[William Huggins]

I have the most stereotypical martial arts/karate/TaeKwondo body. A swimmers body without the muscles.

Skinny fat, without the charm.....

 

[Kardashians]

I’m not goth or heavy metal, but I get labeled as “alt” I guess.

I’m the stereotype that goes for huge dorks tho. To be clear, they don’t look like what you see in those little middle school specials you watch, just they have dork interests and will talk your ear off about the difference between a graphic novel and a comic book. Idky but I like this.

Well, I do know why I like it. They have interests and hobbies that they’re passionate about and I enjoy listening to people talk about such things.

Autistic little fuckers tho.

Also big dicks.