Social Assertiveness training

[biscuitsbrah]

Does anyone have any favorite resources on this matter? Mostly online articles or YouTube videos.

And how assertive are you on a scale of 1-10?
With 10 being a hyper aggressive asshole ready to fight at the drop of a hat, while 1 is a beta cuck soyboy doormat, who avoids confrontation at all costs.
Im probably about a 3. I could stand to be more assertive and use words and direct language when strangers bother me.

Also here’s a story about how my friend got walked all over at the gym. He was walking towards the squat racks and clearly there first. Then a group of 5 guys took his squat rack. He said he was there first but the other guys were like nah we were here first. So he scurried away and did single leg Bulgarian squats in the corner. While giving them dirty looks the whole time. Passive aggressive homie got cucked lol.

 

[revoltub]

Incorporate more power words like "bitch" or "ho".

 

[Katsumi Yamada]

Probably a 6.

I was more like a 2 before i started work, but my career in construction management basically forced me to be way more assertive (you can't be soft when dealing with the kind of cowboys I work with) and it spilled into my whole life, largely for the better.

I'm still pretty laid back about most things though.

 

[crabmeat]

I'm laid back, but I can get to 10 pretty quick. I'm willing to take an asskicking vs. being stepped on, or appearing weak. Being in leadership positions in the Marine Corps hardwired me.

 

[THEfightsAREfixed]

catch me on one day or the other i might run the full spectrum, if you cherry picked some instances you could find me i think at any number, the ability to have discernment and apply long term consideration of consequences while also managing your assertiveness can be a challenging endeavor

 

[Fla graplr]

Gimme yo cornbread level assertiveness

 

[Texan6533]

I’m not sure about a specific person, but I know one of my co-teachers decided to go to an assertiveness seminar to help with classroom management. I could talk to him to see where he went, seemed to help him.

To answer the second question, I’m probably a 7/10 with a 9/10 possibility if my wife/kids need my help.

 

[YEET]

I’d say I’m a 4 overall. Which is close to being balanced so I’m cool with it.

 

[JudoThrowFiasco]

I love conflict negotiations in the professional realm. In private day to day life I keep it at a 7 unless I need to get something settled asap. Most people will avoid conflict so even being above average in assertiveness should be an advantage

 

[Iroh]

Here's your assertiveness training in a minute.

 

[TheTickG]

I love conflict negotiations in the professional realm. In private day to day life I keep it at a 7 unless I need to get something settled asap. Most people will avoid conflict so even being above average in assertiveness should be an advantage

I like to think of it as being non-reactive and assertive. Even some people looking for conflict would struggle at being aggressive because they usually need some kind of reaction to escalate the situation.

 

[genecop]

I’m soft and gentle, I’d say a 1 or 2..

 

[JudoThrowFiasco]

I like to think of it as being non-reactive and assertive. Even some people looking for conflict would struggle at being aggressive because they usually need some kind of reaction to escalate the situation.

I think the prevention to assertiveness is fear of conflict. I haven't experienced anyone who enjoys conflict that isn't assertive. Although I have known plenty of conflict seekers who lack the ability to go with a measured response based on the situation.

 

[Iroh]

I think the prevention to assertiveness is fear of conflict. I haven't experienced anyone who enjoys conflict that isn't assertive. Although I have known plenty of conflict seekers who lack the ability to go with a measured response based on the situation.

Maybe it's just semantics, but it's also just in the more general sense of confrontation. A lot of people fear confronting others, which then could lead to conflict.

Not me though, lol. I love confrontation, because I don't see it as a way heavily skewed towards conflict, but as a way towards a solution that may have some conflict on it's path. But I have loads of experience with it, so I know how to stay on the right path, or when to aboard if really necessary.

 

[Omegaboy13]

Assertiveness towards other people, or telling other people what to do? Like a 1. Assertiveness regarding doing what I want to do and not letting others push me around? Like a 10.

 

[Katsumi Yamada]

I’m not sure about a specific person, but I know one of my co-teachers decided to go to an assertiveness seminar to help with classroom management. I could talk to him to see where he went, seemed to help him.

To answer the second question, I’m probably a 7/10 with a 9/10 possibility if my wife/kids need my help.

Oh good point on your 2nd paragraph. Assertiveness level definitely increases a couple of points when your dependants are involved.

 

[Patrick Jane]

Incorporate more power words like "bitch" or "ho".

 

[rckoltrane]

There is no spectrum of assertiveness to aggressiveness. They’re two different types of behaviors. The difference is knocking on your door vs kicking it down.

Those who confuse the two are simply aggressive assholes trying to justify their behavior or nerds who got pushed around all their lives trying new behaviors. “I’m just being assertive!” Yeah with your fuckin finger in my face and raised voice gtfo here.

Don’t get me wrong though. I apply the appropriate behavior when necessary. In some cases like self defense, it’s appropriate to push back.

 

[Dogshare]

Also here’s a story about how my friend got walked all over at the gym. He was walking towards the squat racks and clearly there first. Then a group of 5 guys took his squat rack. He said he was there first but the other guys were like nah we were here first. So he scurried away and did single leg Bulgarian squats in the corner. While giving them dirty looks the whole time. Passive aggressive homie got cucked lol.

One could also say that the 5 friends also backed each other, while you passively let your friend alone against 5 others and then afterwards tell on a forum he got cucked. And if you weren't there then your detailled description of this situaton could be way off anyway.

 

[Oeshon]

Probably a 9

Probably not surprising given my posting style

I think I've got a good handle on the balance between assertiveness and assholeness now though