Relationship Asking for Dad's permission to marry daughter yay or nay?!

[Candy Routure]

I asked permission. It went over extremely well. Her father loves me.

 

[J0N0]

I'd never even met him when I proposed. She doesn't come with a dowry unfortunately, so it didn't seem like something I needed to negotiate.

 

[J0N0]

There was an article in the Miami herald recently saying around 47% of grooms asked for permission from the bride's father before proposing.

Did the married guys on sherdog ask for permission before proposing?

My girlfriend has told me that I might have to ask her father's permission before I propose

That seems super weird btw. Is he very controlling or something?

 

[Simple Southerner]

That seems super weird btw. Is he very controlling or something?

Nice try keep ur homo erotic thoughts to yourself

 

[J0N0]

Nice try keep ur homo erotic thoughts to yourself

This is a muscly men wrassling forum, safe space homoeroticism is what we're all here for.

 

[blaseblah]

No, we don't live in a society where women are their father's property anymore.

 

[blaseblah]

i think its just a sign of respect, cultural or not.

If it were about respect it would be customary to ask the mom too. It's a cultural holdover from women being property. Same thing with the walking to the alter.

 

[TeTe]

So does the dad ever say no or is this just a "thanks for asking" box to check off.

If their dad said no, would you not propose?

 

[Tyrannosaurus rex]

I wouldn't. I don't think it's common in the Netherlands anymore.

Not sure why he should have a say in it anyway. Sounds like a pretty backwards and outdated custom perpetuated by people who want to control their daughter.

 

[A.S. Deep]

If it were about respect it would customary to ask the mom too. It's a cultural holdover from women being property. Same thing with the walking to the alter.

Spot on

 

[dildos]

If it were about respect it would customary to ask the mom too. It's a cultural holdover from women being property. Same thing with the walking to the alter.

Maybe, but ritual had always been to ask the dad and the mom usually obliges.

 

[freakroor]

my wife hates her father, she did not want me to ask his consent.

 

[The Eagle]

It's a normal thing to do. You are not really asking for permission. Is more like a heads up: "Yo pops I'm gonna marry yo daughter".

 

[RogerB08]

Yeah, no.

 

[IIIIIIII]

i think asking is appropriate. but if the father doesn't like you and doesn't want the marriage to take place, that's too bad for the father.

 

[Simple Southerner]

It's a slippery slope. I don't think it's wrong nor right to ask all depends on the person n situation

 

[Strychnine]

I did. It was awkward as shit but I did.

I didn't but I wish I had. I really respected my Father-In-Law.

 

[melvinj0]

I did, it's just like a traditional thing and it shows respect to your spouse's pop. I really like my ladies Father so I didn't mind doing it, seemed to make him happy too.

 

[2DUM2TAP]

I didn't. He doesn't own her. I have a daughter. I will not expect some kid to ask me either. It's an archaic tradition.

 

[TheJewBear]

Not sure what I'll do. I plan on marrying my girl within a few years but so far I've only met her dad once, over a few days family trip. He is fairly introverted/nerdy and not super conversational, engaging or outgoing. So he's a bit tough to read. He seems like a "nice guy" and his wife seems to wear the pants a fair bit.

I don't think it will make any difference either way. I could call him and ask for his blessing out of respect, or a nod to traditions. I imagine that it would get back to my then-wife who would be surprised by it. There's no way it would be received negatively by anyone so I imagine it may be a good idea. Can't hurt at least. He may really like the ego-boost from me asking him and feel super respected.