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Unless you've had recto-sigmoid colon vaginoplasty you won't be able to self-lubricate, that's a myth. Neovaginas are basically a long dent with a wall in the back, there's nowhere for lubrication or secretions to even come from. But sometimes if you dilate recently before sex, the lubrication from the dilator will still leave a coating of lubrication inside, if you're worried about the awkwardness of having to grab lube before having sex (although there's nothing unusual or awkward about that in the first place, every guy I've been with has been more than happy to do so). Sometimes if a guy is going down on you for a long time a lot of drool/saliva accumulates around that region so maybe that's why so many think they get wet?
As for intercourse, yes with a bigger partner it feels very tight and can be uncomfortable although with smaller partners it hasn't been so bad. But as Fethis noted, using the bigger dilators and doing your dilations religiously will help ease this over time (as far as girth is concerned, not depth). I can't orgasm from sex but it's still enjoyable as an intimate experience and I like just feeling dicks and looking at a guy's face feeling good. I've orgasmed around 5 times in my 18 months post op of being almost continuously sexually active, all of which were from getting eaten out. Probably because it takes a long time for me (a guy has to be down there at LEAST 20-30min) and a lot of guys just don't know what they're doing anyways so I ask them to stop after a a few minutes. Then there are the guys who just don't go down on girls at all.
Looks wise, everything is perfect. Not to sound slutty but I've slept with and been naked with a lot of men and have never been questioned about any abnormalities so everything must be good. I don't like looking at vaginas so when I was at my consultation and the doctor asked what aesthetic I like I just asked for whatever his standard was, and I have a very discreet tiny slit, cute and porno-y.
I went to Dr. Chettawut fwiw