Anyone else feel "stuck"?

[IloveTHIS]

Badly want a new job, dont want to relearn new skills and meet new coworkers all over again.

Want to get healthier, but feel like I cant make it through a work day with out massive amounts of caffeine and nicotine.

Desperately want to move to another state, dont want to make all new friends.

Want to start a new relationship, dont want to go through the whole dating process of weeding out bums.

Have new hobbies really interested in starting, but too tired after work and not enough off time.

Yea I know this probably just sounds like the diary of a lazy guy. Just feels like I'm stuck right in the middle of nothing. Nothing bad, nothing great. Just status quo and hard to change it.

 

[WaylonMercy5150]

Badly want a new job, dont want to relearn new skills and meet new coworkers all over again.

Want to get healthier, but feel like I cant make it through a work day with out massive amounts of caffeine and nicotine.

Desperately want to move to another state, dont want to make all new friends.

Want to start a new relationship, dont want to go through the whole dating process of weeding out bums.

Have new hobbies really interested in starting, but too tired after work and not enough off time.

Yea I know this probably just sounds like the diary of a lazy guy. Just feels like I'm stuck right in the middle of nothing. Nothing bad, nothing great. Just status quo and hard to change it.

It sounds like you need to sleep more. Try as hard as possible to get 8 hours every night. It will change your life.

 

[IloveTHIS]

It sounds like you need to sleep more. Try as hard as possible to get 8 hours every night. It will change your life.

I try all the time to get a solid sleeping schedule but always fail. I'm a night owl so I stay up until 3 or 5am every single night even when I have to get up at 8.

I know its horrible. IDK for some reason I just feel at my happiest at night. Burning the midnight oil, playing games, browsing sherdog, fapping, etc.

 

[genecop]

Pretty common stuff, unfortunataly these days people are so preoccupied with the American Dream that once was, that they barely have time to take a piss..

We all feel Stuck from time to time...you have to take small bites, anyone would get overwhelmed looking at all those changes and challenges that you listed...

Take one thing, make a change, start off small, and remember This To Shall Pass..

 

[NoGoodNamesLeft]

Badly want a new job, dont want to relearn new skills and meet new coworkers all over again.

Want to get healthier, but feel like I cant make it through a work day with out massive amounts of caffeine and nicotine.

Desperately want to move to another state, dont want to make all new friends.

Want to start a new relationship, dont want to go through the whole dating process of weeding out bums.

Have new hobbies really interested in starting, but too tired after work and not enough off time.

Yea I know this probably just sounds like the diary of a lazy guy. Just feels like I'm stuck right in the middle of nothing. Nothing bad, nothing great. Just status quo and hard to change it.

sometimes life makes a decision like this for you, i wish i was still stuck in my old life. tonight is my very last night in this apartment, tomorrow i will really be starting over and it sucks.

 

[Clippys Mom]

First off, get yourself banned from Sherdog. I took a year off all social media and forums and focused on health, wealth, and family. I got me really far towards everything I wanted. It's not as easy as that of course, but you get the idea. Sounds like you are in a 'velvet rut' at the moment.

 

[jlagman]

It's all about outlook and framing, being miserable is the easy part.

 

[Alphaboy]

Badly want a new job, dont want to relearn new skills and meet new coworkers all over again.

Want to get healthier, but feel like I cant make it through a work day with out massive amounts of caffeine and nicotine.

Desperately want to move to another state, dont want to make all new friends.

Want to start a new relationship, dont want to go through the whole dating process of weeding out bums.

Have new hobbies really interested in starting, but too tired after work and not enough off time.

Yea I know this probably just sounds like the diary of a lazy guy. Just feels like I'm stuck right in the middle of nothing. Nothing bad, nothing great. Just status quo and hard to change it.

With respect, that's not "stuck", you're not willing to do the work it takes to get what you want.

 

[IloveTHIS]

First off, get yourself banned from Sherdog. I took a year off all social media and forums and focused on health, wealth, and family. I got me really far towards everything I wanted. It's not as easy as that of course, but you get the idea. Sounds like you are in a 'velvet rut' at the moment.

Get myself banned from Sherdog? Want me to rape my own sister while I'm at it?

 

[Clippys Mom]

sometimes life makes a decision like this for you, i wish i was still stuck in my old life. tonight is my very last night in this apartment, tomorrow i will really be starting over and it sucks.

Attitude is everything.

 

[IloveTHIS]

With respect, that's not "stuck", you're not willing to do the work it takes to get what you want.

so youre saying pull off the perfect bank heist to get that $$$ and everything will be fine

 

[Alphaboy]

I know its horrible. IDK for some reason I just feel at my happiest at night. Burning the midnight oil, playing games, browsing sherdog, fapping, etc.

That's the life!

 

[76Knockout]

I can relate to a lot of that.

I've been offered jobs that pay moderately better than what I currently make, but I'm really good at the job I have now and have moved up a lot to the point I have good job security/freedom. So instead of trying something new/improving I play it safe.

Health wise I've managed to cut out fast food, but haven't been able to actually change my eating habits to something healthy/sustaining. I've been losing weight, but that's just because I have a really physical job and its summer. I usually slim down to around 210 (I'm 5'10 male 29) then bloat up to 230 in the winter because I stop caring. I'd love to actually make permeant positive changes though..

Relationship wise, I am sick of being alone, so I tried the online dating thing again (there's literally no setting in person I can meet women that I am in regularly not a bar person). After a month of failing I have found someone. We've been talking 2 weeks and met in person 2 days straight now. Hooked up both times, but she's hesitant about getting into an actual relationship yet which worries me. I guess we will see how it pans out.

The only hobbies I have are video games and skateboarding, both of which I've been doing very little lately. I really want to buy a guitar and learn but its pretty intimidating. I feel like I'm so old and haven't ever played at this point so It might be a waste of time.

 

[Clippys Mom]

Get myself banned from Sherdog? Want me to rape my own sister while I'm at it?

One will serve the other, and both can be done at the same time.

 

[Mike]

I try all the time to get a solid sleeping schedule but always fail. I'm a night owl so I stay up until 3 or 5am every single night even when I have to get up at 8.

I know its horrible. IDK for some reason I just feel at my happiest at night. Burning the midnight oil, playing games, browsing sherdog, fapping, etc.

Same thing here buddy. I don't remember the technical term for it, but my therapist confirmed it's a part of the mental illness. A side effect of anxiety. I struggle badly to get proper sleep when I'm sober.


I'm in the same boat of not having the skill set to get a good job, but I don't have the time and resources to do anything about it. I live in a small shitty town with few opportunities, but I'm planning to move to a much larger city soon. The people here are garbage monsters, so there's few opportunities for networking, friends, or dating. I know I need to work on my social skills and not being so introverted, and I'm hoping I can make some progress there after I move.

 

[Alphaboy]

so youre saying pull off the perfect bank heist to get that $$$ and everything will be fine

First off,

Please do not straw-man me. It wastes my time and it wastes yours arguing a point I never made (or implied).

I was referring to your mindset of

"I wanna..."

"But I don't wanna..."


There is a saying that: "You can have anything you want, but you can't have everything you want."

If you want a new job, you're gonna have to meet new co-workers and learn the new skills.

If you want a relationship, you're gonna have to kiss a few toads before you get the right one.

Nothing comes easy, and sacrifices must be made for everything.

 

[Mike]

Pretty common stuff, unfortunataly these days people are so preoccupied with the American Dream that once was, that they barely have time to take a piss..

We all feel Stuck from time to time...you have to take small bites, anyone would get overwhelmed looking at all those changes and challenges that you listed...

Take one thing, make a change, start off small, and remember This To Shall Pass..

Sounds clichéd but it's literally the only way forward. Pick a goal and start chipping away at it. Once you achieve one goal, that will motivate you to make other changes. The trick is to get a cascade of success going.

 

[ultimateriley-o]

Stop allowing yourself to make excuses. Just start making small changes to the things you don’t like; you’ll be surprised by what change you can affect by slight changes and encouraged to improve other areas.

You just have to start. Keep letting yourself make excuses and you never will.

 

[SRTUFC420]

I feel similar at times ts but you just got to chip away at things until you make your life more how you want it. Life is definitely a juggling act. Got to start small with constructive things that will make your life more positive. Things aren't going go happen over night but if you keep on top of your game, stay disciplined you'll get there eventually .

I'm a single dad who works full time and i work on my side etsy business at night after my son crashes out. I wake up early to squeeze a workout in. It can be overwhelming at times but i just keep focused on the little things and try not to stress over the big picture.

 

[IloveTHIS]

Same thing here buddy. I don't remember the technical term for it, but my therapist confirmed it's a part of the mental illness. A side effect of anxiety. I struggle badly to get proper sleep when I'm sober.


I'm in the same boat of not having the skill set to get a good job, but I don't have the time and resources to do anything about it. I live in a small shitty town with few opportunities, but I'm planning to move to a much larger city soon. The people here are garbage monsters, so there's few opportunities for networking, friends, or dating. I know I need to work on my social skills and not being so introverted, and I'm hoping I can make some progress there after I move.

That actually makes a ton of sense as far as it being a side effect of anxiety. I've posted on here a few times about my life long struggles with chronic anxiety and OCD.

First off,

Please do not straw-man me. It wastes my time and it wastes yours arguing a point I never made (or implied).

Bro I was joking. Sheesh. Sorry it didnt translate very clearly over text.