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TS maybe you should move and start over
Already did thanks..hence the thread
TS maybe you should move and start over
Lol I called a woman ma'am once and I thought she was gonna kill me
A lot of my best friends are dead.
Most of the rest moved out of this area or live on the other side of the country.
This area is fucking weird now, it used to be a really cool place full of music and art.
Gentrification and the techies pretty much killed all that.
Like everywhere I used to hang out is gone.
It's fucking weird before things closed how alien things became here because of the new crowds that moved in.
Shows n concerts was all I had left really and where I saw people who weren't work friends.
Now that's all gone to shit.
Also I'm kinda weird, not like creepy weird,but my interests aren't exactly the kinds of things this new crowd is really into so I don't bother with most of them.
Yeah I do have to be fake to an extent, but I have quite a complicated life and I’m not willing to share it with these people. I just see most of these people as people who I can pass the time with. If I thought they’d be good candidates for true friendship then I would do what I could to pursue that. When I move away and start over I hope i won’t have to keep my guard up as much.
To address OP, I think most people have VERY superficial levels of relationships, even relationships that have spanned decades. If you took drinking and going out to eat, and general familiarity/comfort out of the equation, most people's social circles would pucker quicker than Altar boy's asshole in the Vatican City. It's easy to have friends when things are going well for you and it's easy from an effort standpoint, but once people have to start making effort or various other sacrifices I think most people would be shocked at how quickly their relationships fall to the wayside. Truth be told, alot of people are going to be quite lonely as the Millennials and younger get older, since the effort they put into their friendships and other relationships largely involves no greater effort than commenting on each others' social media accounts. To have good relationships, you have to make big efforts, but at the same time, other people need to make effort with you too. And it's OK to require this effort from other people. I'm not talking about sacrificing your whole self, but effort is needed for good relationships, just like anything else worthwhile.
Nothing too crazy mostly
art, horror, dark comedy related stuff.
And metal, oh and also cooking.
maybe give up on the selfish ego victomhood stuff and just sacrifice to make relationships work, the ideas you have in your head about whats best for you are most likely bullshit and you are destroying your life so that can lead an empty hollow existence or im totally wrong and you are doing an amazing job keep it up champ
the simple fact that you yourself defined the relationships as FAILED means you need to take responsibility and makes them a SUCCESS or you should expect the kind of things that come with living in failure with a defeatist mindset which is pretty torturous bro so turn that shit aroundBeing stuck in shitty relationships is what destroys life..and define "hollow"?
Happiness follows the rule of diminishing returns..anything you do over and over again gives you less marginal benefit of happiness..toxic relationships have the exponential negative effect
In order to be happy you have to experience new things in life and even good relationships can keep you from that due to inherent obligations and responsibilities
Living in a multi million dollar villa or driving a ferrari will get boring after a while and a waste of money due to novelty wearing out..the incremental benefit would be much larger spending that money in a cheaper but new place or trying another car
Same concept applies to a lot of things including food and women..so what you characterize as hollow is very fulfilling to me..being able to be free and experience new things unbound by relationships or social stigma of worrying what family and friends would think or say
Who has grown tired of fake family and friends, repeatedly broken trust and inherent obligations draining all your precious time and energy?
I myself have given up, cutting them out, and prefer socializing passively and anonymously on sites like sherdog. Its way less stress and i feel much more free.
Woorddd.
Can't wait for shows to actually start up again.
There were so many cool tours cancelled.
Woulda been fun.
Yes, please!
Oh there’s nothing phoney about it. I just don’t share anything personal with these people and that’s it. They’re the kind of friends you just talk crap with. They know the deal. Nothing deeper than that.Then quit being phoney and stone cold tell them the truth
Takes time to find out who ppl truly are..and you cant change ppl they can only change themselves
Yes, please!
You can talk shit in the OT and be controversial without getting yellow carded or banned. Got a problem with somebody? Call their ass out.I’m new here, what’s the difference between Mayberry and Off Topic???
I checked it out and most of the threads looked super lame!
I noticed that I cannot post there, but to be honest, I wouldn’t even bother if I could.
OT is where real men hang..mayberry is for sissies
You can talk shit in the OT and be controversial without getting yellow carded or banned. Got a problem with somebody? Call their ass out.
Being stuck in shitty relationships is what destroys life..and define "hollow"?
Happiness follows the rule of diminishing returns..anything you do over and over again gives you less marginal benefit of happiness..toxic relationships have the exponential negative effect
In order to be happy you have to experience new things in life and even good relationships can keep you from that due to inherent obligations and responsibilities
Living in a multi million dollar villa or driving a ferrari will get boring after a while and a waste of money due to novelty wearing out..the incremental benefit would be much larger spending that money in a cheaper but new place or trying another car
Same concept applies to a lot of things including food and women..so what you characterize as hollow is very fulfilling to me..being able to be free and experience new things unbound by relationships or social stigma of worrying what family and friends would think or say
were ur real family bro.Who has grown tired of fake family and friends, repeatedly broken trust and inherent obligations draining all your precious time and energy?
I myself have given up, cutting them out, and prefer socializing passively and anonymously on sites like sherdog. Its way less stress and i feel much more free.