Alzheimer's Grandparent / Almost humorous if it wasn't sad :z
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Had 3 grandparents this time last year. 0 now. All died at 90, 2 had Alzheimer’s.
Might sound callous, but the overwhelming emotion was relief.
Grandmother who was mentally still there was a lot more heartbreaking, though.
Might sound callous, but the overwhelming emotion was relief.
Grandmother who was mentally still there was a lot more heartbreaking, though.
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It's all a tragic comedy.
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I get that feeling and vibe from my parents too
Like they feel her dying would be a relief and stuff
Visiting the ones with Alzheimer’s was depressing. They basically just sat there in silence, not knowing what the fuck was going on.
My grandma was still sharp til the end, basically. The last 2 years of her life she barely left her room. She wanted death to take her. 90% of her day was at best miserable.
I hope I have the courage to blow my brains out before I get to that stage.
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The biggest joke of life is that we are all going to die, take care of your health while you are young.
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my ancient yoga book from the 1970s refers to yoga as "the means to the conquest of old age, disease, and death"
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Comic tragedy.
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I disagree. It's more of a comedy.
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Semantics I guess.
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Use less emojisMy grandmother's disease has been getting progressively worse over a couple of recent months.
Now she keeps calling my phone and wanting to talk but she turns the sound off every single time so that I can still hear her on the other end but she cannot hear me...
It gets almost to the point that I start screaming instructions for how she can switch up the volume on the side of the phone until she hangs up on me -- then she calls me again almost instantly and we repeat this
On Sunday I went over to her place and showed how to turn the volume up but that didn't seemed to have helped at all and now I'm a fair bit frustrated mind you
Any advice Sherdog?
I'm thinking about buying her a new phone one that she can't possibly turn the volume down on x
(She keeps going on and on about some old phone from the 2010s that was much much better than her current one and gets angry that ''we'' made her throw it away)
Sherdog got any experience with Alzheimer's and stuff like that?
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Peace and love
I gotta get going with work - hopefully you guys got some sage advice or a story or two
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Just get as much rest as you can, for the times she's not on autopilot. Don't forget to eat.
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I woke up and found my pretzels in the fridge 2 days ago. Im not that old
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I pray she gets better.My grandmother's disease has been getting progressively worse over a couple of recent months.
Now she keeps calling my phone and wanting to talk but she turns the sound off every single time so that I can still hear her on the other end but she cannot hear me...
It gets almost to the point that I start screaming instructions for how she can switch up the volume on the side of the phone until she hangs up on me -- then she calls me again almost instantly and we repeat this
On Sunday I went over to her place and showed how to turn the volume up but that didn't seemed to have helped at all and now I'm a fair bit frustrated mind you
Any advice Sherdog?
I'm thinking about buying her a new phone one that she can't possibly turn the volume down on x
(She keeps going on and on about some old phone from the 2010s that was much much better than her current one and gets angry that ''we'' made her throw it away)
Sherdog got any experience with Alzheimer's and stuff like that?
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Peace and love
I gotta get going with work - hopefully you guys got some sage advice or a story or two
I suggest you make an instructional video or screen-recording for her on how to operate the phone or something.
Put it on her desktop or main phone screen, so she has easy access to it. At her fingertips.
And develop/accumulate some patience in you.
Best wishes, Clams!
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It’s an odd emotion when a loved one dies at 90. Almost felt guilty I wasn’t more upset, tbh.
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My grandmother's disease has been getting progressively worse over a couple of recent months.
Now she keeps calling my phone and wanting to talk but she turns the sound off every single time so that I can still hear her on the other end but she cannot hear me...
It gets almost to the point that I start screaming instructions for how she can switch up the volume on the side of the phone until she hangs up on me -- then she calls me again almost instantly and we repeat this
On Sunday I went over to her place and showed how to turn the volume up but that didn't seemed to have helped at all and now I'm a fair bit frustrated mind you
Any advice Sherdog?
I'm thinking about buying her a new phone one that she can't possibly turn the volume down on x
(She keeps going on and on about some old phone from the 2010s that was much much better than her current one and gets angry that ''we'' made her throw it away)
Sherdog got any experience with Alzheimer's and stuff like that?
@BFoe
@paynebringer
@Iroh
Peace and love
I gotta get going with work - hopefully you guys got some sage advice or a story or two
I know how it is to deal with older folks trying to bring them into a modern world. My father good bless him is 90 strong as a Redwood don't look a day over 70 try try to explain internet banking, email, navigate 5,000 channels, forget about it. Patience and understanding is my advice repeat and repeat again and let them try under your watch and cross your fingers it's sinking in.
And give them lots of love, that always goes through...
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Late stages of Alzheimer's is one of the worst things you'll ever witness.
Neighbor growing up had the financial stability to convert his 3000sqft garage into a full time nursing home for their father with advanced dementia. He received 24/7 care with live in nurses. He survived for 7 years, most of which were in a vegetative state. He did not know who he was, he did not know who his family was. He was nothing more than a breathing being.
I am 100% confident that if he had known that's what his life would turn into, and the burden he would be on his living descendants, he would have put a bullet in his own head. This is the reason I believe euthanasia should be legal in certain circumstances, and nobody will convince me otherwise.
Neighbor growing up had the financial stability to convert his 3000sqft garage into a full time nursing home for their father with advanced dementia. He received 24/7 care with live in nurses. He survived for 7 years, most of which were in a vegetative state. He did not know who he was, he did not know who his family was. He was nothing more than a breathing being.
I am 100% confident that if he had known that's what his life would turn into, and the burden he would be on his living descendants, he would have put a bullet in his own head. This is the reason I believe euthanasia should be legal in certain circumstances, and nobody will convince me otherwise.
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