Going to have to weigh in with Kenny on this one. It's called tact. Most people don't have much and the internet is full of individuals completely lacking it.
Great match for John. Sonny's a tough guy and it's awesome getting competitive experience against people of his level at such a young age. That said, the way the post was written was completely inconsiderate and in poor taste--even though it was not intended to come across in that way.
If you've never won anything before, I suppose it would be difficult to understand the concept of "winning gracefully." Most idiots at Jiu-Jitsu tournaments try to do backflips and scream in a language they don't even know because they saw someone else do it, too. John didn't do that--John won gracefully. The thread title is not in the same spirit of toughness and sportsmanship that John and Sonny displayed.
I'm trying to too see where you guys are coming from... I really am. In my competitive experience, not necessarily stellar, but pretty lengthy, the idea of "winning gracefully" is reserved for the moment, and generally limited to the participants. John won gracefully, you already mentioned that. The kid never said a word so him and his win are out of this equation.
I'm curious, in your competition experience would you really be upset if a friend, fan or teammate cheers their guy? There are some outrageous examples but over all you block that out. You've been under the lights right (edit: I'm thinking of specific instances in other peoples backyards)?? Sometimes people are screaming their heads off, jumping up and down, they are looking right at you screaming and would rather see you fucking explode than go out there and beat their guy on his home turf.... do you give a shit?? No. You step out there and do what you do.
And if you are good, and someone who's not supposed to beat you does, don't get mad because you hear about it somewhere. You know that shit gets around and it is what it is.
The issue is not about winning gracefully, it's the spirit in which the post was made as you said.
Playing devil's advocate, I can see that maybe the hyperbolic nature of the title might be a little off putting. I re-read the post, and it seemed pretty neutral/factual.
Still, the fact is we agree that it wasn't intentional, ....he's excited for his friend/training partner.