Well, their ideas differ from what men would prefer, but they only differ slightly (and to men's liking) from how men themselves select mates. That was always a silly vision, and would only be semi-coherent if women were entirely dispossessed of any productive abilities themselves, to the point that picking a mate was purely about survival. Even then, to entirely discount physical and emotional attraction would be asinine. Courtship for men is still a much, much, much more meritocratic game than it is for women. Women deviate from seeking a proportionally attractive mate all the time and bend their physical standards on the basis of intelligence, success, emotional attraction, etc. Men? Not nearly as much. If you're a successful man, it's almost unheard of that you date a woman of lesser attractiveness, and women will be overvalued on the basis of physical appearance to a much greater degree. For a woman with every great quality except remote physical attractiveness, their field of suitors is still extreeeeemley limited.