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maybe they both agree for her to be on tinder so he can fantasize about other guys wanting her and she can "show him" how desirable she is.... weirded things Ive seen dude
I don't see how not telling him directly is even an option. "I'm scrolling through Tinder, pretty sure your gf is here, come check it out if you want to make sure." What happens from there is on him.
If it's an acquaintance I can understand not wanting to get involved.. but fuck, I hope my "buddies" would tell me.
I would keep my little nose out of it but whenever i saw that person i would be thinking what scum they are and how in denial their partner is to not see it .
Why would they tell you about your intimate partner what you can't figure out on your own ? If you're getting cheated on, you're either okay with it or very delusional about your partner . Why would your friend want to tell you you're delusional ? It takes a friend to hold their tongue in these situations . Only someone who didn't care about you would expose you to such a hit on your ego to tell you the unbridaled truth .I don't see how not telling him directly is even an option. "I'm scrolling through Tinder, pretty sure your gf is here, come check it out if you want to make sure." What happens from there is on him.
If it's an acquaintance I can understand not wanting to get involved.. but fuck, I hope my "buddies" would tell me.
Which is exaclty why telling you that you are a dipshit wont work . You probably have no idea that you are being a dipshit and will just be completely shocked and appauld at the suggestion that you are being a dipshit over a woman / man who just plain isn't worth shit .Don't pretend that any of us is immune to the spells they cast. We are all supercalifragilisticexpiallidocious dipshits at one point or another in our lives over a woman.
The thing about chronic cheaters is that they are also chronic liars . Do you think he'll confront her about the link and she'll admit everything ? She's obviously going to lie and say that someone has stolen her pictures or most probably that the meddling friend who sent the link made that profile because he never liked her . Either way you're dragging yourself into the drama between a chronic liar/cheater and the dipshit that loves him/her . You cannot win .Dude, if she's dumb enough that she has a profile, then the normal rules are out the window. The problem with this crap is usually that when you tell your friend, you have no proof, and you end up getting caught between two people because you never know how some guys (no matter how good they are as bros) will react. That's the dick factor. Some guys will refuse to believe you, even if you have no stake in it, and start assigning motives to you. Some guys are like, "You never liked her..." Or, without that visceral evidence, even if they do believe it, they find a way to forgive the chick.
This ain't that. Literally just text him a link. Be like, "Whoa, bro! Sorry to be the one, but I saw this, and felt you oughta know".
It's the right thing to do.
This is some naive bs right here . The vast majority of people getting cheated on probably never find out and that is probably why cheating so pandemic . Some people are just not very observant or inquisitive about their situation when everything seems fine . They're just happy that someone loves them and pretends to embody all the nuances they associate with being in love and what a relationship is supposed to be .Don't bother man honestly just let nature take its course. If she's doing sleezy shit like that and not being discreet about it there's no doubt in my mind he will find out.. or maybe he's a cuck and likes that shit one of the two.
Why would they tell you about your intimate partner what you can't figure out on your own ? If you're getting cheated on, you're either okay with it or very delusional about your partner . Why would your friend want to tell you you're delusional ? It takes a friend to hold their tongue in these situations . Only someone who didn't care about you would expose you to such a hit on your ego to tell you the unbridaled truth .
Since the gf (if you want to call him her that given tinder), the phone stops ringing. Friends prior to that. No call over the holidays. None last summer. The acquaintance thing is what I am thinking. Have friends and best friend that is family to me. I wouldn't hesitate to say something. Here, I will shocked if we still talk this time next year.