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  1. Kwai Chang Caine I play harmonica.

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    Female Evolutionary Imperative.

    Grab an alpha with strong genes and turn him into a provider that will ensure good outcomes for their offspring.

    The 'fixing' behavior is all just variations on this theme.

    She's just looking out for her own interests and doing what evolution has programmed her to do.

    Here is an interesting article:

    The Male Imperative vs. The Female Imperative
     
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  2. Renard Brown Belt

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    Peterson talked about this. He says women are looking for a civilized dangerous man, they're happy to start with someone more on the dangerous side and tame him into civilized - assuming the man has the capacity for it. A man that has no edge, no capacity for violence, no capacity to do terrible things if the situation demands it, is useless. Similarly, a man that's dangerous but out of control i.e. a threat to the woman herself, is useless. He ties this to the idea that you need to integrate your Jungian shadow to become the civilized dangerous man.

    I think he's exaggerating a little. Most couples are just ordinary ass people. But the general principle makes sense.
     
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    It's a problem of not accepting the man as you find him.

    My ex wife did that shit, nagging about things I was never gonna change in my mid thirties, that she was previously aware of.
    A truly odd experience that caught her by surprise because there were a few occasions where I argued well enough to make it clear that she was being ridiculous.
     
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    *make due

    Sorry.:oops:
     
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    Make do.
     
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    eek!:oops:
     
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    *eak
    Jeez, mang
     
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    Here is your real answer
     
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  9. Renard Brown Belt

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    Depends what the "things I was never gonna change" are. If you're leaving your dirty laundry everywhere and your excuse is "I've done this my whole life," that's a terrible argument and makes it clear you're not open to reasonable feedback, which is mandatory for a relationship.
     
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    It wasn't anything like that. I did my own laundry (everybody's) and chores, she simply developed an *undefined* set of unclear expectations that she read in a book on marriage that a husband and wife ought to have, but when she pressed me about what my expectations might be, she was bothered that I had none.
    "Just that you'll love me and treat me nicely" wasn't what she was looking for from me.
     
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    because they cant fix anything around the house
     
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    Because I mean, look at you.
     
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    I do get annoyed when someone always says "You've never done ______ for me" or "You've always acted ________".

    I'm like "Ya......soooooo then you shouldn't be surprised right? It's not like I did a 180. You knew what you were getting into"
     
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    We try to fix women as well. Make em give better head, show em how you like your food cooked, show them how you like house cleaned etc etc
     
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    Ego. Bragging rights to claim she's so hot that she bent this guy to her will.
     
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    This post should be quoted in every beta relationship thread that ever gets posted in mayberry from here on out.
     
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    Because they can't fix themselves.
     
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    I tried to be the best husband I could be for years, but she still wasn't happy and was always trying to fix me. Then I just said screw it, I am the way I am and if you wanna fight about it then let's fight. Never be afraid to fight with your woman. After that our marriage got a lot better.

    It's still not good, but it's a lot better.
     
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    they can fix me a sammich

     
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