Trying to get back into BJJ after years off

Discussion in 'Grappling Technique' started by Hatake88, Jun 11, 2018.

  1. dimmyfinster

    dimmyfinster Orange Belt

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    If the gyms are reasonably similar in distance, you should be trying multiple gyms anyway.
     
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  2. Dogstarman

    Dogstarman Old man jiu jitsu

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    Fuck those guys. Find another place that is more respectful of your predicament.
     
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  3. andrewm2211

    andrewm2211 Orange Belt

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    I’d be so motivated by petty revenge I’d want to go to another gym. Put my obligations aside. Train extremely hard for 6 months.
    Then go to open mat and the gym full of dorks and try to tap them with neon belly.
     
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  4. bowened

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    Whatever you do, don’t roll with any blue belts.

    They’re going to attempt to murder you, especially if the instructor is watching.
     
  5. lechien

    lechien Gold Belt

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    To be honest, I doubt it would be helpful.

    The reason is that instructor usually is responsible for the culture and attitude of his gym.

    Usually students absorb the instructor attitude and try to replicate him.
     
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  6. Balto

    Balto Silver Belt

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    I always try to welcome guys who are getting back into it. It seems strange to criticize someone like that.

    No matter what just stay positive and keep training man.
     
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  7. lechien

    lechien Gold Belt

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    You have no idea how people are really up into their own little bjj world within the boundaries of the walls of their gym.

    I will you story that happened to my students last Saturday.

    He went to an open mats at what I consider a gym that we are friends with .

    My student just rolled with this blue bekt and was doing his things. Especially this week I introduced these new drills: tripod, DLR, single X and X guard. So surely he would have been testing this new drill at an open mats .


    Well anyway, a blue belt at the host gym asked him where he trained because he was really good.

    So my student replied he trains at my club. The blue belt replied: "yeah, I know you train at his club because you wear their rash guard". But surely you must have train with someone else in Brazil before that".

    Basically that blue belt announced that I was a shit instructor and that the only explanation for my student to be any good is that he is BraziIian and trains in Brazil before he joined my club.

    The sad part is that I know that blue belt and he only reflects the attitude of his peers and instructors.
     
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  8. CrazyN8

    CrazyN8 Custom Title

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    I was/am in. Sort of similar situation, but only 6 months off. But same circumstance, new gym, brand new purple and went into a tough, competition focused gym.
    The purple belt curse, now every roll with a blue is a death match. And every roll with a brown or up is a beating.
     
  9. Coconutwater

    Coconutwater Green Belt

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    If you give the name of the person who promoted you to purple, and inform them of the long lay off, the other students should back off. The only time I’ve ever heard anything remotely close to this is if nobody has ever heard of the professor.
     
  10. dmwalking

    dmwalking Sapateiro Belt

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    So you can either try another school where the guys aren't such dick heads.

    Or....You can just accept that you lost a step and train until it comes back to you. By the way, I've taken a few years off before. It's normal for your brain to remember things but your body loses the muscle memory. Keep training consistently and it will come back to you. Promise. And eventually you'll be tapping the guys who were initially making fun of you. You'll earn your respect the hard way.

    And you know, you don't have to prove anything to anyone. Everyone's BJJ journey is going to look different. Everyone's reasons for training are different. So remind yourself of why you train and commit to that goal. Don't let petty stuff like this stop you from enjoying yourself. They wanna rain on your parade, bring an umbrella and enjoy yourself.

    Success is the best revenge. Just stick to it until you start tapping them.

    But again, it does suck to train in a shitty environment, so if you can go to another school, go to another school.
     
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  11. dmwalking

    dmwalking Sapateiro Belt

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    Even then all it takes is a google search. Not everyone's coach is famous. But every black belt's lineage can be confirmed at least. Shit, I remember some dork asked me who my original coach was and was like "never heard of him." I'm like, dude, before I came to this school I never heard of your coach either. Not every coach is famous.
     
  12. Foppa21

    Foppa21 Brown Belt

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    Agreed.

    OP, it's your life. Getting back on the mats after 3 weeks can be tough, let alone 3 years. It's your life, list down your goals and remember, they are YOUR goals.

    Belts are only there to keep your gi jackets in place
     
  13. Foppa21

    Foppa21 Brown Belt

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    If anything, you've lost timing (a lot of it) and some details. Like I posted in another reply, list your goals and strive towards them. They're YOUR goals and it's YOUR life.

    On the tie your belt thing, it's alright. Some do, some don't. Some call it McDojo BS, some call it a bit of discipline and order (FYI, I'm in this camp). I wouldn't dismiss like most people here. Remember, you're a guest (at this point in time) you do have to adhere to their rules. If you don't like them, there's a door you're welcome to walk out of and never return.
     
  14. Cash Bill 52

    Cash Bill 52 Brown Belt

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    What? It seems like you found some motivation to do some major ass kicking. Just do it in a subtle way. Get your mojo back and start blasting those fools.
     
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  15. ChrisK1

    ChrisK1 Orange Belt

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    What cash bill said pls. I was in a very similar situation with the time off (gym has been great though). I thought I would keep most of what I had learned, but you really forget alot more than you think you will.

    Man on one of my first days back from a very extended layoff - I remember trying to do a forward roll on opposite shoulder escape out of an omoplata and I landed somewhere between the crown of my head and forehead. The cobwebs are real.

    It'll come back for you soon enough.
     
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  16. Foppa21

    Foppa21 Brown Belt

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    It's a simple rule. All it takes is simple rules to show a bit of discipline. For some, it doesn't take much for the culture to switch to "just walk on and off whenever you feel like it, even when you're late for class"

    On your second note. Way back when I was white belt, there was a blue belt that hadn't trained for years but was on the comeback. We're drilling and I'm the one showing him the details of techniques and thinking "How does he not know any of this?". Whelp come time to roll and he puts on a absolute technical beat down on me. The muscle memory was strong with that one. He couldn't describe a tech and all the little details but come go time, everything just clicked for him
     
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  17. Evenflow80

    Evenflow80 Green Belt

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    That must feel terrible OP. I dread taking time off too and having to come back.

    We turn to face the wall to tie our belts too so I dont think that's wierd (maybe a Gracie Barra thing??) but everyone I've ever met there has been nothing but friendly and respectful. I can't even imagine any person there being so catty and discrespectful.

    I agree with others about maybe trying a new gym, but I also think as a purple in a few months you'll get back in shape in no time.

    That being said, I've seen a TON of absolutely terrible blue and purple belts, but without exception every brown belt I rolled with has been a killer. Something definitely changes between purple and brown IMO.
     
  18. xMTDx

    xMTDx A grappling dad

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    I returned to the gi after 4 years doing no gi and was a one stripe purple. A good blue belt tapped me second roll. At first there was no pressure because I was the no gi guy but as I continued I felt I had to be some purple belt killer. I have just kept turning up and reminded myself to have fun and that there's nothing to prove. There's good days and bad days but consistency and self belief is key along with keeping your fitness up. Fast forward a year I have received two more stripes, am helping run class and for the most part am dominating and holding my own where I should. And to echo the sentiments of the others, facing the wall is some koolaid shit. A year back and coach is happy with my progress and even tells me I keep him honest. Dont sweat the fucktards. There's life outside the gym. Enjoy your time at a good gym and run your own race
     
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