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I'm in my thirties now, but I remember in my 20s, I had some weird beliefs that damaged my self-esteem and held me back.
If anyone is in their 20s and reads this and finds it useful, then good luck.
1. The world is going to end:
I remember actress Daisy Ridley being asked whether she would be in future Star Wars movies, her reply was "I don't know, the world might end soon, who knows?"
From Nostradamus in 1997, the millennium bug, to the Mayan prophecy that the world would "reset". The belief that the "world is going to end" is not helpful for long term planning and is a toxic message to hold and entertain.
How are you supposed to make any long term commitments to growing yourself, if in the back of your mind, you believe the world will end?
2. Destiny and Astrology:
"Maybe it was just meant to be", "maybe it's just destiny", "shit happens", "it's the law of attraction".
No! We actually have free will and are fully in charge of making decisions in our lives. Take responsibility for what you have decision making control over and stop feeling guilty and shameful of stuff you have no control over. It damages your self esteem.
And if anyone tries to make you feel guilt/shame for anything you didn't do/had no agency over, give them the middle finger.
3. Materialism and minimalism:
We don't need that much stuff to live. Some people are obssessed with accumulating materials. Look at the Black Friday sales, who needs this junk? Where are you going to store it. The more things you own just weighs you down, mentally.
At the same time, don't go full minimalist, either. About a year ago, I tried minimalism, but found I wanted to keep certain things that I was passionate about, hobbies etc.
I was researching some minimalists who burn photographs and upload them digitally, to "save space" and "reduce clutter". That's insane and taking it way too far.
4. Obssessed with perfectionism:
Good enough is good enough. Let go of the idea of having a "perfect" anything.
5. Being an honorable loser:
"I lost but I played by the rules" whereas the winner was underhanded, sneaky and breaking the rules.
I'm all about fairness, but if I see that my opponent isn't playing fair, then the gloves are off and I ain't losing.
6. You don't owe everyone your kindness:
Be kind and polite, but you don't owe it to everyone. Especially if they are being rude to you.
It's ok to be selective about who you show kindness to.
Positive beliefs and habits:
1. Appreciate what you have and the positive things in your life.
2. Read lots of books. Accumulate knowledge and wisdom.
3. Trust your intuition more. You know what you should be doing.
4. Don't beat yourself up too much. Forgive yourself and move forward.
Can you think of any others that ring true?
If anyone is in their 20s and reads this and finds it useful, then good luck.
1. The world is going to end:
I remember actress Daisy Ridley being asked whether she would be in future Star Wars movies, her reply was "I don't know, the world might end soon, who knows?"
From Nostradamus in 1997, the millennium bug, to the Mayan prophecy that the world would "reset". The belief that the "world is going to end" is not helpful for long term planning and is a toxic message to hold and entertain.
How are you supposed to make any long term commitments to growing yourself, if in the back of your mind, you believe the world will end?
2. Destiny and Astrology:
"Maybe it was just meant to be", "maybe it's just destiny", "shit happens", "it's the law of attraction".
No! We actually have free will and are fully in charge of making decisions in our lives. Take responsibility for what you have decision making control over and stop feeling guilty and shameful of stuff you have no control over. It damages your self esteem.
And if anyone tries to make you feel guilt/shame for anything you didn't do/had no agency over, give them the middle finger.
3. Materialism and minimalism:
We don't need that much stuff to live. Some people are obssessed with accumulating materials. Look at the Black Friday sales, who needs this junk? Where are you going to store it. The more things you own just weighs you down, mentally.
At the same time, don't go full minimalist, either. About a year ago, I tried minimalism, but found I wanted to keep certain things that I was passionate about, hobbies etc.
I was researching some minimalists who burn photographs and upload them digitally, to "save space" and "reduce clutter". That's insane and taking it way too far.
4. Obssessed with perfectionism:
Good enough is good enough. Let go of the idea of having a "perfect" anything.
5. Being an honorable loser:
"I lost but I played by the rules" whereas the winner was underhanded, sneaky and breaking the rules.
I'm all about fairness, but if I see that my opponent isn't playing fair, then the gloves are off and I ain't losing.
6. You don't owe everyone your kindness:
Be kind and polite, but you don't owe it to everyone. Especially if they are being rude to you.
It's ok to be selective about who you show kindness to.
Positive beliefs and habits:
1. Appreciate what you have and the positive things in your life.
2. Read lots of books. Accumulate knowledge and wisdom.
3. Trust your intuition more. You know what you should be doing.
4. Don't beat yourself up too much. Forgive yourself and move forward.
Can you think of any others that ring true?
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