Should I cheat or ask for permission?

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  1. fonzob1

    fonzob1 Red Belt

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    If you ask permission, your marriage is almost certainly over. If you cheat behind her back, you might get away with it but will have to live with the lie.
     
  2. EndlessCritic

    EndlessCritic Gold Belt

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    Nope. I've been into kink since I was 12.
     
  3. xcvbn

    xcvbn Silver Belt Platinum Member

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    Real easy NO if you have kids. Otherwise you just tell her what's on your mind and if it results in divorce so be it, if not congrats- you get to stay married and fuck other women.
     
  4. franklinstower

    franklinstower Purple Belt

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    In sickness and in health-- good times and bad. Only pussies have to get everything they want.
     
  5. koolinkunming

    koolinkunming Silver Belt

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    Well then, you should’ve told your wife that before you got married to see if she would share in that with you, rather than springing it on her later and just expecting her to fall in line.

    Like....

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  6. EndlessCritic

    EndlessCritic Gold Belt

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    I used to be able to manage because she used to be intimate with me. Now that we're down to less than once per week, I can't help but fantasize about this shit.

    Anyways, to conclude this thread, I did just tell her what was up. And surprise surprise, she was not happy.
     
  7. koolinkunming

    koolinkunming Silver Belt

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    No shit she wasn’t happy. You should’ve told her what you are into before you locked her into a marriage. Now you seem surprised you’re in this situation lol.
     
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  8. JohnRam87

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    Easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.
     
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  9. djacobox372

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    You should ask yourself why putting an appendage into an unfamiliar wet spot is worth more to you than your wife/family.

    Do you really think your are still your wifes fantasy lay? LOL... unlikely, but to her your relationship is more important than some random $ick no matter how much better and bigger it is than yours.
     
  10. SpartanKhmy

    SpartanKhmy Green Belt

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    How long have y'all been married? Any kids? Is it a lack of effort or intimacy? Have you discussed this with her? Gl, bro...
     
  11. DM1982

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    Finally, someone said it.

    It's also more cowardly.

    Just man up to the situation rather than being a craven coward and going behind her back.
     
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  12. Fluffernutter

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    Option 6: Annulment
     
  13. mjmj

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    At least half of the people responding obviously haven't read anything beyond the title.
     
  14. Clear Winner

    Clear Winner Big Poppa Pars

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    Has it always been like this? Just wondering why you would get married to a woman who doesn't show any physical signs of love for you.
     
  15. val_lixembeau

    val_lixembeau Blue Belt

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    Don't cheat and stay in the marriage. That is trying to have your cake and eat it too; just incredibly selfish.

    I would say arrange with your wife a budget for having an "outside contractor" help you out. You may have to allocate a similar recreation budget for whatever her needs are, whether that be just shopping or girls vacations or whatever.

    She won't need to worry about you getting emotionally attached. It's out in the open. It's harder for her to complain about you paying for it if you can't get it at home, whereas if you cheat then you are the asshole in the relationship. It also provides an incentive for her to someday take over the duties if she wants to save that money.

    All depending on what's legal where you live, of course.

    Edit: Holy crap, you have one in the oven and a toddler and you are still considering cheating?!?! What the hell is wrong with you? That's the most selfish thing I've ever heard! Surely you can keep your desires under control for a year or so?
     
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  16. EndlessCritic

    EndlessCritic Gold Belt

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    The first year of our relationship was fine. Then we bought a house and things went downhill quick. She was upset that I was working out of town, and her brother got diagnosed with cancer. She begged me to propose, and I banked on things going back to normal once I got a local job and her brother's issues were over. Now I have a local job and her brother is healthy and things are worse than ever!
     
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  17. Clear Winner

    Clear Winner Big Poppa Pars

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    Ahh, sorry to hear that.

    Buying a house with someone is a big commitment, as is marriage, obviously. Hope that her being a 10 didn't make you rush into those decisions and hope you're covered in terms of a prenup.I hope I'm wrong, for your sake, but it sounds like a long hustle.
     
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  18. Ippy

    Ippy Ik ben Groot.

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    Seriously... there's a chance that she's been getting her rocks off with someone(s) else for years.

    What does she do for work? If she doesn't work, (who) what does she do all day?
     
  19. EndlessCritic

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    She works full time and makes the same as me, just under 100k/yr. Not bad seeing as we're both under 30.
     
  20. SouthernThrown

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    BAAAAAAHAHAAA!!!
     

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