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And why is that morally wrong?
And why is that morally wrong?
I don't think he should. He just shouldn't cross my path, that is all.
I don't think all of those people who work for that boss, should lose their jobs just because the boss happened to be an asshole to my daughter, or girlfriend, or whatever. That's a destructive impulse, to punish everyone, for one man's sins.
We'd just deal with the problem in a man to man situation, and leave it at that. He can keep his company because his company didn't assault my daughter or girlfriend. I don't need to exact vengeance on everything that the man has accomplished. A physical reminder of his transgressions, is enough. The punishment must fit the crime. The man might have a wife or children to look after, who need him to make a living. Those people that work for him, might need that company that he has built, to make a living.
I've had people insult me and the people that I care about before, and I've straightened them out. No need for any third party to get involved. No need for social media outrage, no need for the police, no need for the courts, no need for any of that.
That's because they've grown to expect the state to carry out their punishment for them. Anyway, I think we just disagree on such a fundamental level that it's not really worth arguing about. The sort of a society that you propose, is the sort of a society that I'm sworn to resist against, with every inch of my being. And I'm afraid there are no real arguments that can stray me away from that innate belief.
Are you asking for other people to do a lot of deep thinking for you? Test your studies, make your case. If you have a strong position, maybe you'll have a fun and interesting thread from it, but this isn't really the thread for that I think.For society to function, this needs to be answered though. You cant just claim moral authority without doing it. Otherwise you will find more and more people breaking these 'rules'. The christians at least had hell. What do you have?
I don't think we are nearly as far apart in our beliefs as you would like to believe. You have already done half the work in proving my point.
You have already admitted that your reaction to your GF getting groped would not be moderate, and you would be inclined to personally remedy the situation. Giving the boss a 'physical reminder' of his transgressions no less. So you would be inclined to respond with physical violence. As would many of us.
And as I mentioned before, the owner of a company would not be fired for merely grabbing some tits. No one in a company would be. The person and the company would be given the opportunity to modify the behavior and remedy the matter. Only if they failed in that would there be consequences for either. I am fine with that. People in the organization close to the situation can take an objective look and decide what's best. With the more serious incidents being dealt with more decisively.
Where we differ is on public exposure, though I too have a distaste for social media like twitter and instagram. Providing the victims are Ok with it, I like the idea of people being exposed for this sort of thing. Justifiable shame is a useful tool and if often gets a very bad rap.
Ok mate. Wasn't trying to derail. Its a heavy topicAre you asking for other people to do a lot of deep thinking for you? Test your studies, make your case. If you have a strong position, maybe you'll have a fun and interesting thread from it, but this isn't really the thread for that I think.
@HIMBOB too, since he seems to have a similar opinion-
Would it be inappropriate to offer men & women the opportunity to come forward on the condition that minor (non-assault stuff, wherever that line is drawn) harassment would be aired, admitted, discussed, corrected and forgiven? Is that unrealistic?
You can have that if you want, because it's not central to the argument. The problem is still systemic.
I don’t see this retroactive morality ending well
I don't get what you mean, can you explain?
I think a punch on the nose is a fully proportionate standard of punishment, compared to a grab of the breasts.
I don't think a man losing a 50-year career and being publicly shamed is proportionate. That sounds like some Middle Ages theocratic bullshit to me.
The problem with social media shaming is that not nearly all of it is justifiable. Mob rule has generally not been a very effective form of rule in human history. I do not see any reason why lynch mobs would be more effective in 2017, than they were in 1817.
You are an interesting paradox. You obviously like the idea of vigilante justice but do not care for 'mob justice'. Mob justice is just a group of people that feel the same way you do. It's Ok for you to hit your GF's boss in the nose for grabbing her tits. But it's not Ok for her brother to do the same? Or her Father? You + her brother + her father = Mob.
Public shaming does not have to entail additional consequences. Though it often does. But the fear of being exposed is a powerful deterrent, and it should be utilized, not limited.
Surely you realize that almost every power structure puts protocols in place to limit and avoid exposure of questionable acts. And this almost always comes at great expense to the victims. How do you think Sandusky was able to do what he did at Penn State for so long even though plenty of people knew about it? How do you think the Catholic Church was able to do what it did to children for centuries?
We certainly agree though that the social media overkill that so often accompanies discourse these days is most often not useful or helpful. But there is a difference between that and someone 'being exposed' for scandalous or inappropriate actions.
People have been being exposed for centuries, basically as long as there has been written word. I like people being exposed. In all things, sunlight is the best disinfectant.
And people have been 'gossiping' about things being exposed for just as long. That's all social media really is- Gossip. A little bit of gossip on a small scale could be considered a harmless diversion. But the difference now being that gossiping is faster, easier, and can be done with the whole world at once as opposed to person to person. And I am not sure that is a good thing.
.Knock it off, asshole. I'm talking about harassment and misconduct, not rape. And I think you knew that when you wrote that, so you probably owe me an apology. Way to instantly torpedo a post you put a lot of words and thought into. I'll forgive you for your indiscretion though. lol.
You should also acknowledge how I specifically set Weinstein and Moore apart (which implies Cosby too, obviously) as people who should be made an example of. Weinstein may get what's coming, but they brought the wrong case against Cosby and Moore is sitting pretty in a shithole state of people who broadly lack any sense of morality in the face of politics. Unfortunate. I don't have any specific outcome in mind, other than we manage to deal with the problem without losing our minds. I see that the discussion is in danger of polarizing into cynicism vs capitulation.
I disagree that I'm reckless in calling it a systemic problem. The system has until recently allowed men to do pretty much anything they wanted without consequences, and the reason they didn't face consequences is because it was taboo for men to be held accountable. That means women reported less, and your "vast vast majority" of men refused to go to bat for them, because they were just trying to get by within the system. Even the good men did nothing- god forbid they lose admission to the Good Old Boys' Club.
And your response doesn't seem to take into account that I'm not calling for no consequences, just less severe consequences. For example, Louis taking the hit with his film and Netflix was a reasonable consequence. But blackballing him would not be, and plenty of people are reveling in the idea of his career ending. I also disagree that he wouldn't have become rich and famous. Let's say the first time he pulled his little stunt, his manager drops him and the clubs make him sit out for a while. That probably doesn't finish his career. If it's before his notoriety came, then the accusation doesn't get the same attention. It would be ridiculous, for example, to say that if you had sexually harassed somebody at McDonalds and been punished for it, that you would never be able to become a CEO.
whats wrong with sexual harrassment anyway? I mean at a moral level? Do you go to progressive hell? What are we basing 'good' and 'bad' on exactly?
A family sorting out problems involving the family is not "mob justice".
Mob justice is when a man on the other side of the world can jump in on a public shaming, without knowing jackshit about the situation, without having any emotional attachment, outside of enjoying the temporary feeling of power that he gets from being able to bring somebody down. That's what we are seeing in spades, nowadays. The weak get empowered by social media, and they become intoxicated from that power. They do not give a shit about the situation involved. They are addicts looking for a fix, and there needs to be a steady, uninterrupted stream of such "fixes", even if there's no one particularly deserving to bring down.
Every damn day, somebody needs to be painted red with tomatoes.
This happens because the individuals involved within those power structures are a bunch of pussies. We no longer live in a world where people are fully dependent on these power structures and therefore have to lay down and take it from their "bosses". There are plenty of opportunities for people to just say "no".
The idea that a woman is forced to suck someone's dick, in this day and age, is ludicrous. They can just go on welfare, if nothing else. Not like they'll die of starvation. I have little sympathy for those that degrade themselves to that level.
These people, for the most part, exchange sexual favours for fame and glory, and are willing to take it for as long as the fame and the glory persists. When it doesn't, they get scornful.
It's not so much people being exposed that's the problem, as much as it is people proving themselves, once again, utterly incapable to utilize the "mob power" of collective shaming, in any sort of a rational manner whatsoever. The best evidence is how many of these "sexual predators" themselves were first in line to judge other people, until being exposed themselves. Our irrationality is amplified when encouraged by a collective.
Sorry but No. A family doling out a beating on a dude that groped a female member is precisely mob justice. It it mob vigilante justice, pure and simple. And I am not saying I am even against it. I am just saying that's what it is.
Some knucklehead on social media piling bile onto whatever fuckwit that got exposed for whatever douchebaggery he got up to, I suppose could also be viewed as mob justice. But now we are just talking about the size of the mob.
Does 'your mob' have more of a right to it's justice because you are more personally involved with the participant(s)? Perhaps. But you don't get to be the judge of that. Who gets to decide who joins 'your mob'? What about cousins? What about good friends? What about the guy that was fucking your GF before you and still 'hangs out' with her every now and again and is 'good friends' with her.?He probably wants to punch her boss too. Can he join your mob that is not really a mob?
As far as 'the weak feeling intoxicated and powerful on social media'. Being addicts and not giving a shit. I don't disagree with any of that. It's all true. And I would be happy to see a lot less of it. And I practice what I preach by having no twitter, no instagram, and perhaps only go on facebook every second week. But I can believe and want all that and still be fine with some fucker getting exposed for being masturbating in front of women. As far as when I start to feel sorry for said fucker due to the scale of the mockery and abuse- I will let you know when that happens.
Though this is full of passive aggressive butt hurt here, there is some truth to this and the point is not completely lost on me. An ideal outcome in these situations for me would be for the men to get exposed as the douches they are, and the women get jackety shit in a lawsuit. Which is precisely what will happen in most of these cases.
This is very true and I was fucking laughing my ass off when Ben Affleck went on line to express his outrage, only to be outed as the one of the biggest leches of all.
You should not get so wound up about it though. There are so many much more deserving of your rage than internet trolls. And there are so many much more deserving of your pity than rich men who sexually harass and molest women and are then raked over the coals by internet trolls.
And as I mentioned before, the owner of a company would not be fired for merely grabbing some tits. No one in a company would be. The person and the company would be given the opportunity to modify the behavior and remedy the matter. Only if they failed in that would there be consequences for either.
Bullshit.
Not bullshit. You watch too much TV.
In was in the corporate world for 17 years. I fired 4 people for sexual harassment during that time, and saw one boss canned for similar reasons. NONE of them were summarily dismissed.
My favorite was Anselmo. He was from Africa. I swear to you I am not making this up-At a company function, he went up to the HR manager of our entire regional operation, who happened to be a very plump white woman, and in front of several others told her that her breasts were like casaba melons. He then went on to say (before offering an invitation back to his hotel room) that in America and Europe they think fat women are ugly but African men treat them as sex goddesses.
I was notified of this the Monday following the incident. Since almost 60% of my staff were female at the time, I was eager just to clip him immediately. But I was not permitted. He was given a formal written warning, and forced to go through a 12 hour workshop. He stayed employed another 5 months before he started becoming pervy with a colleague. He was driving with her in a company vehicle to another location to pick up some other vehicles when he took a detour to his apartment and asked her if she wanted to go in for 'a quick one'. Even then I was not going to be able to summarily dismiss him for sexual harassment. Fortunately I was able to can him for misusing the company vehicle.