I think moderation is what people need to exercise.
Yes, it is bad if a man steals a kiss from a woman, or gropes them, or whatever, but it's not worth ruining someone's decades-long career for.
The punishment needs to fit the crime. The best punishment for most of these guys is an apology and a promise to never do it again. Of course, the ones who exceeded the criminal extent (the Harvey Weinstein's, arguably) ought to be ostracized, but for the most part we are talking about misbehaviour rather than outright criminal behaviour.
The standard that is being set here, a sort of retro throwback to the theocratic sexual repression between the genders, and the shaming of sexual displays, is one that few of us are going to be able to live up to, including the women. I'm afraid we can't just cherry-pick all of the good, while being able to eliminate all of the potentially awkward shit that's going to go down in an overtly sexualized society, where the standards of what is appropriate vary based on the level of attraction (something that is not always easy for a person to gauge). You aren't exactly given a rulebook with some basic orders to follow.
To a reasonable extent, we are going to have to be able to live with our imperfections, instead of defining ourselves (and others) based on them. To a point where a 50-year career of doing good for the society is buried because a man got drunk and grabbed a place which he shouldn't have, 20 or 30 years ago.
We have to always think and react in proportion.
@HIMBOB too, since he seems to have a similar opinion-
Would it be inappropriate to offer men & women the opportunity to come forward on the condition that minor (non-assault stuff, wherever that line is drawn) harassment would be aired, admitted, discussed, corrected and forgiven? Is that unrealistic?
Some common sense words, but more practical in theory than reality.
How 'moderate' would your reaction be if your daughter, girlfriend or spouse had their boobs and vag grabbed by their boss? Should that guy not lose the cushy job he has had for 15 years?
What the vast majority of people believe is that everyone else needs to exercise moderation and some balanced restraint. But if the same thing happened to them and theirs, you bet your sweet ass they would be out with the picket signs.
So- If your mother or sister was raped 10 years ago, do you think the people that did it should be judged less harshly that if they raped them today?
Sadly, there is nothing you need to do for your desired outcome to manifest Fawlty. It is going to happen on its own. In fact it is already happening. Accountability for past acts is already being minimized.
The belated consequences all these perpetrators are suffering are already orders of magnitude less than they would have been if they were doled out in real time. Bill Cosby will likely never serve a day in jail for drug raping dozens of women. Harvey will never serve a day in jail. Neither will Moore.
We would likely never have even heard of the Charlie Roses and Louis CK's of the world if they had been busted in real time. Because they would have never have become rich and famous. Or at the very least they would have been much less rich and famous than they are now. The life's and lifestyles of these people are immeasurably better off than they would have been had they got busted earlier. No matter what happens.
We agree though that the key to having maximum accountability, and fairness is always going to be addressing things when they happen, not years later.
But no clemency is needed for past acts, either for these people or the ones that follow. They have already enjoyed clemency for their actions by having consequence free lives up to this point, and will continue to enjoy virtual clemency even after they are outed unless by some miracle they are prosecuted.
But No-Fuck No, we do not need to brainstorm ways to help letches that have avoided justice up to this point find ways to continue avoiding it.
You should also be careful the way you throw around the term 'systemic problem'. Because the vast, vast majority of men operate within our current system and climate without ever harassing or sexually assaulting women.
I agree that now is a good time for men to come forward.Fawlty- You are one of my favorite posters on here. But honestly, what are you on about? That can happen right now.
Nothing is stopping anyone from coming forward and admitting to inappropriate behavior in the past, and asking for forgiveness. And even the people that are being outed involuntarily are likely to suffer minimal consequences.
I mean think about it. What is the worst case scenario for Roy Moore. I mean absolute worst case? He does not become a Senator?????? OMFG!!! How on earth are the men in our society be going to endure such draconian punishment?
whats wrong with sexual harrassment anyway? I mean at a moral level? Do you go to progressive hell? What are we basing 'good' and 'bad' on exactly?I agree that now is a good time for men to come forward.
Fawlty- You are one of my favorite posters on here. But honestly, what are you on about? That can happen right now.
Nothing is stopping anyone from coming forward and admitting to inappropriate behavior in the past, and asking for forgiveness. And even the people that are being outed involuntarily are likely to suffer minimal consequences.
I mean think about it. What is the worst case scenario for Roy Moore. I mean absolute worst case? He does not become a Senator?????? OMFG!!! How on earth are the men in our society be going to endure such draconian punishment?
whats wrong with sexual harrassment anyway? I mean at a moral level? Do you go to progressive hell? What are we basing 'good' and 'bad' on exactly?
You mean like the social contract? I dont rape you, you dont rape me kinda deal? Because thats not really morality...Basic human empathy.
You mean like the social contract? I dont rape you, you dont rape me kinda deal? Because thats not really morality...
I mean, maybe i'm just a psycho. But 'rationally' speaking, why should i give a fuck about you or anyone else unless it involves my self-preservation?
I mean, maybe i'm just a psycho. But 'rationally' speaking, why should i give a fuck about you or anyone else unless it involves my self-preservation?
Oh I understand your pain. But what makes me care about it?Empathy.
Oh I understand your pain. But what makes me care about it?
Well, you're asking that instead of dealing with this, we should examine all of the moral presuppositions that we base our society on. It's like somebody getting caught stealing, and instead of deciding what his punishment should be, we instead have a discussion about whether our ideas about property are valid. Sure, we could do that in a philosophy or civics class maybe.whats wrong with sexual harrassment anyway? I mean at a moral level? Do you go to progressive hell? What are we basing 'good' and 'bad' on exactly?
Oh I understand your pain. But what makes me care about it?
And why is that morally wrong?Well part of empathy is understanding and then caring about it.
If you don't have empathy, you're some degree of sociopath.
For society to function, this needs to be answered though. You cant just claim moral authority without doing it. Otherwise you will find more and more people breaking these 'rules'. The christians at least had hell. What do you have?Well, you're asking that instead of dealing with this, we should examine all of the moral presuppositions that we base our society on. It's like somebody getting caught stealing, and instead of deciding what his punishment should be, we instead have a discussion about whether our ideas about property are valid. Sure, we could do that in a philosophy or civics class maybe.