Western countries are the least racist in the world, yet we get bitched at about racism more than everyone combined
On a serious note, I think the problem is that solving those 1st world problems like "he said mean things" doesn't improve or advance our society at all, it's the exact opposite.
What does "a society where he CAN say...." even mean? If people wanna change values or whatever, that's up to them.
But 90% of people who complain about racism always promote laws to combat "hate speech".
A society in which somebody is punished for any sort of insult is not an advancement at all.
But to give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe she simply means that somebody who says racist things should be boycotted or something, which, again, is her opinion.
Also, I agree partly with what you said. In her case, for example, I don't think the fact that she's successful justifies racist insults and I'm sure she heard quite a lot of them especially on the internet in her career. But at the same time she's an example of a black woman from a poor neighbourhood becoming a millionaire "in our society" and to some extend a living proof that skills outweigh race in this society.
So yeah there is a certain irony and I don't mean she has to take any insults but the same free society which allowed her to be successful because of skills should also allow idiotic comments.