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You would think that at 32 years old, I wouldn't have to make threads like this, but I am feeling restless and the anonymity of the internet is appealing.
So I just had a big fight with the girlfriend, and I don't know what to do. This is one of those rare instances in which I genuinely don't think I did anything wrong, but I am fighting the urge to call and fix things.
Backstory:
We are planning to take a trip to Washington together, and we were going to have some things ordered and shipped to the hotel (as shopping in America is cheaper than Canada). As a gift, I purchased her a necklace on Etsy, and given the time it takes to craft, I wasn't certain it would be ready in time for the trip.
She told me that her preference was to have the necklace shipped to the hotel to avoid customs/shipping charges to Canada, but in the instructions to the seller, I said that I wanted the necklace either way, and was willing to pay extra in the event it wouldn't be ready in time. Keep in mind that this is my money that I am spending as a gift to her.
When I told her about my instructions to the seller, she said I didn't listen to her, and shouldn't have given the seller the latitude to change the shipping date. When I told her she didn't explicitly say that she didn't want the necklace in the event it couldn't be shipped to the hotel, she said that she shouldn't have to tell me, and that I was inconveniencing her by potentially having the necklace shipped to her address. She then says that I didn't have permission to give the seller her address, and that I should have asked permission to share her personal info.
I was genuinely flabbergasted - I was trying to be extra accommodating by having the necklace being delivered either way, and it felt like I was being attacked. She started crying and saying that she didn't want the necklace or even to go on the trip, and basically hung up on me.
I am sort of sitting here wondering what the fuck happened. While she is very emotional, the relationship to this point has generally been pretty great. We are intellectually compatible, and enjoy each other's company, but it feels like this is insanely unreasonable and a huge red flag for moving forward.
What do I do Mayberry?
Cliffs:
-TS is an idiot and feels like he is a doormat.
So I just had a big fight with the girlfriend, and I don't know what to do. This is one of those rare instances in which I genuinely don't think I did anything wrong, but I am fighting the urge to call and fix things.
Backstory:
We are planning to take a trip to Washington together, and we were going to have some things ordered and shipped to the hotel (as shopping in America is cheaper than Canada). As a gift, I purchased her a necklace on Etsy, and given the time it takes to craft, I wasn't certain it would be ready in time for the trip.
She told me that her preference was to have the necklace shipped to the hotel to avoid customs/shipping charges to Canada, but in the instructions to the seller, I said that I wanted the necklace either way, and was willing to pay extra in the event it wouldn't be ready in time. Keep in mind that this is my money that I am spending as a gift to her.
When I told her about my instructions to the seller, she said I didn't listen to her, and shouldn't have given the seller the latitude to change the shipping date. When I told her she didn't explicitly say that she didn't want the necklace in the event it couldn't be shipped to the hotel, she said that she shouldn't have to tell me, and that I was inconveniencing her by potentially having the necklace shipped to her address. She then says that I didn't have permission to give the seller her address, and that I should have asked permission to share her personal info.
I was genuinely flabbergasted - I was trying to be extra accommodating by having the necklace being delivered either way, and it felt like I was being attacked. She started crying and saying that she didn't want the necklace or even to go on the trip, and basically hung up on me.
I am sort of sitting here wondering what the fuck happened. While she is very emotional, the relationship to this point has generally been pretty great. We are intellectually compatible, and enjoy each other's company, but it feels like this is insanely unreasonable and a huge red flag for moving forward.
What do I do Mayberry?
Cliffs:
-TS is an idiot and feels like he is a doormat.
