Ehhhhh....I don't think it's that simple. I get those same compliments and I still don't expect anything because the reality for me is that a lot of chicks still look the other way. Do they owe me their time? Hell no. It's their choice.
What you have to look at is that this Elliot dude had some major issues going on - schizophrenia and such. Again, I'm not a psych expert but I'm sure that being schizophrenic - combined with some childhood upbringing strangeness - contributed to his case.
My coworker seemed to have a "mommy" fixation - maybe his attraction to our co-worker was due to her being a mom and he was trying to tie up some loose ends from his own relationship with his mother? Everyone is different so it's really difficult to say. It is fascinating stuff, though.
I suppose your right, myself, I was EXACTLY like Elliot until I entered the world of...Business!
To be honest with you, I was operating on emotions and sentimental value. But upon entering the business world, I developed a mindset of " bringing something to the table" and for me, I didn't want to commit, I didn't want to try hard. I just wanted to cash in on my compliments and receive sex and sexual pleasures.
But upon realization, I had to understand that, I too had to provide something. With relationships, you pay with time and emotions as well as dinner dates/gifts. With massage/escorts, you pay with straight hard cash. No shame, you are paying for it one way or another.
The moment you own up to your true intention, then that's the moment you can be liberated from your inner conflicts. For myself, I wanted what Elliot wanted but like Elliot I didn't want to do the work which is establishing the emotional/social connections. With me, I too was in the Elliot Rodger path but I was at least immersed in to boxing in my loneliness and from there, I got wear an tear, then got a massage, felt good, then I was offered something that was going to make me feel great...
In the end, nothing changes, I am still the same asshole that I was, losing your V card is nothing, it doesn't make you a super saiyan, it doesn't make you a transcendent being, your still just the same person. It literally doesn't do shit and yet he put value in sentimental currency which for him was being loved in a romantic way. This is why I despise romantic movies that glorify love and romance. Its great if you are in to it but the ultimate love comes from you loving yourself and being comfortable in yourself. That is true security and inner peace as oppose to depending your happiness on another persons affection/approval!
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