Pips who bring their gf to watch them roll

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  1. Tchoker

    Tchoker White Belt

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    Don’t kid yourselves, do you really think a gf/wife is actually paying attention to you rolling around with another dude in pajamas or spandex? My wife would be completely zoned out in about two minutes if I took her to class.
     
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  2. NewS

    NewS Orange Belt

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    I know this is sherdog, but why is it that everyone seems to think that beating your opponent is your decision, couldn't it be that he's much better than you and he smashes you even harder in front of his gf???
     
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  3. mataleaos

    mataleaos Purple Belt

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    Yes to all of this
     
  4. Evenflow80

    Evenflow80 Green Belt

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    Yeah that's even worse than a gf. Beating s guy in front of his kid. Ugh.

    Thankfully I'm not that good yet so don't have to worry about it for a while
     
  5. BIGthingsSON

    BIGthingsSON Blue Belt

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    Lol, you're going to the wrong gyms then. You gotta be patient about that kind of stuff because gym culture and the art are like seperate entities. You never kno what ur gonna get.

    Also this thread is about pussy. Were having man talk here. No one actually cares about their wench watching
     
  6. AZ103

    AZ103 Brown Belt

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    This thread is about what to do when someone brings their girl to practice not pussy. And the correct answer is grow up and just have a normal practice.

    Also I dont think its the gyms friend. I call it the jiu jitsu attitude. Its almost like how the most religious people who scream sinner the loudest are always commiting the most heinous crimes. The guys all saying there is no ego in our sport seem to have the biggest fucking heads of anyone ive ever met.
     
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  7. Foppa21

    Foppa21 Brown Belt

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    Dominant male. It's all marketing. "Me Da Man. Me hulk crush. Me destroyer of worlds". Per previous notings, depending on the person's standing amongst the group, the bro code applies. Do the JOB. Don't be a c0ck blocker.

    It's also a bit of subtle pro wrestling. Take a beating without being a douche about it. Don't go around flailing about making a din. I read Mick Foley's first book way back when and he said Owen Hart was so good at the craft that he could take bumps that looked terrible to all the guys in the back just to get a laugh out of them but the crowd wouldn't know any different. Be like Owen Hart.

    If you stink, don't invite her to a tournament LOL
     
  8. Foppa21

    Foppa21 Brown Belt

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    The "check your ego out at the door" with relation to jiu jitsu should be followed by ".... or it'll be done for you". That's all it is. And also, if you don't you'll probably progress slower IMO
     
  9. j123

    j123 Pro Sherdogger 500-0-1

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    Doesnt really matter at the end of the day becuse them chickas be on their phone the entire time seeking out the latest in drama, while gym bros are trying to fight for the world in the corner thinking she's actually paying attention. Lol.
     
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  10. AZ103

    AZ103 Brown Belt

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    Oh i agree that you should indeed. I just noticed most people who say it don't practice what they preach. And on top of that its vauge. So who decides? A better lead off is "this is a combat sport and people can and do get hurt, be respectful of your partners and go slow if you dont know what you are doing, we do not tolerate uneducated agression here"
     
  11. Foppa21

    Foppa21 Brown Belt

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    It's a very fine balance. You don't want to go balls to the wall but you don't want to turn into a liquid mess and take it like a champ either. It just comes with experience. For me personally, I'll let training partners work. I'll err on the side of caution but that turn it up if the need be.

    You've summed it up quite nicely with your quote. Just keep in mind that newbies don't know what they don't know.
     
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  12. Balto

    Balto Silver Belt

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    I roll the same no matter who is watching.

    People who don't train can't stand to actually watch BJJ. That is normally true for both guys and girls. So they are going to tune out if you bring them to watch.

    The biggest practical benefit of BJJ with women seems to be that it keeps you physically fit. That's a major plus -- especially into your 30s and most other guys around are getting fat.

    Being seen as tough and a winner is always a plus, but it doesn't even take anything physical to be perceived that way. A couple of rolls won't change that perception. Your girl probably made that decision about you before you even started dating.
     
  13. HunterAcosta

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    I don't change a damn thing. I roll the same. If anything, I turn it up a bit cause the guy who's girlfriend is there, usually does too.
     
  14. Zankou

    Zankou Muscle and Hate Staff Member Senior Moderator

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    Too much reality here. It’s the equivalent of being taken to a cat show or something. Take out cell phone, pretend to be interested.
     
  15. j123

    j123 Pro Sherdogger 500-0-1

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    Yep. The last card Sam alvey was on, at the weigh ins he brought his wife. Then immediately after going to weigh in she looked like she was bored out of her mind and wanted to be elsewhere ASAP while the two were doing the stand off.

    Just how they are
     
  16. Bluesbreaker

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    I don't know about the rest of you, but we're all friends at my club. I'll even let someone throw me, if their partner is there.
     
  17. Mrs. Alvey

    Mrs. Alvey White Belt

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    More like we just have 3 kids and a bunch of family and friends to get to post weigh in dinners. Fight week is a lot of work. I love public and private weigh ins. I also love watching my man train. He watches me train too. It’s another way we can help each other get better.
     
  18. knees_n_elbows

    knees_n_elbows Jiu Jitsu Got Me Woke

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    in over 8 years of training my lady has only been to my gym to watch me like 4 times. 3 of those times she wasn't invited by me but I was getting promoted.
     
  19. Relentless chase

    Relentless chase The one and only

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    That's just not right at all man lmao does anyone have any respect anymore for another mans woman?
     
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  20. Rdude92

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    confirmed: your coach is smeshing her
     
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