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If my wife is not in the mood I wait until she is sleeping and jerkoff on her.
That is the correct word, and is never appropriate in a sexual relationship.
since my wife only puts out once every other month, is going to be the end of our relationship.
Millennials.
Maybe you aren't in the best situation to be waxing lyrical upon how to have a good sex life?
A lot of women like to be dominated. Sex is more complicated than yes and no. Such things are for retards that can't understand meaning. No can be said with a coy smile. Yes can be said with an emotionless tone that should be a massive boner killer.
Plenty of women said yes to weinstein, just because they wanted work and they agreed it was the price of business. They knew all the ramifications and only went through with it because they wanted more dollars to buy shiny things. They said yes but weinstein was in the wrong to accept said affirmation.
It's more complicated than you suggest. Such simplification is for those that need it, not for the majority.
I am "waxing lyrical" about what i want in a partner. Said that the whole thread. Want and have are two different thing.
I am against all this coercion nonsense in part because in the past in our failed relationship i have tried it and it proved unsuccessful. The other part as stated is that when i strike out into the market again, i know what i want in a partner, and someone i have to coerce and cajole into sex is not what i want. I don't think it is right or healthy.
Yes, plenty of women said yes to him, and that is why their situations fit the definition of rape. He coerced yes out of them with his power, under the implied threat to their career.
I thought you were at least reasonable. Now your talking like a misogynist..I coerce affirmations out of women with my dominant genetics and implied threat that they'll never have stronger babies with any other man.
Don't use mind games and Coercion.So turning your partner on, then having sex is rape? Dangerous ground we're treading here.
I thought you were at least reasonable. Now your talking like a misogynist..
I am done with this thread. I am not going to convince a bunch of PUA's that coercion is wrong in a relationship, and they wont convince me to use their mind games on women. I have stated my position that coercion is wrong and stand by it. I am for communication and honesty, not coercion.
Definitely an interesting question.
I agree with @Mike that relationship dynamics are constantly in flux, so though it sounds harsh when worded this way, oftentimes each party is working to get the other to do things they wouldn't independently want to do. It's a subtle art (or it should be anyway) but in good relationships the long term consequence is two people who have successfully read enough cues over time that they're able to make each other very happy - without becoming unhappy about their own (adjusted) behaviour. Sexual persuasion is just another set of these cues and is on-side and acceptable imo. A relationship between people with very different sex drives would never survive otherwise.
Among my circle of friends, and I suspect on Sherdog as well, what's more controversial is whether your significant other has some obligation to sexually perform when you have the desire to, even when she doesn't. On this my answer is a firm no. My ex tried this once near the beginning of the relationship, and I gave her shit for not standing up for herself more when she was clearly not in the mood. I can honestly say I don't want to have sex with a girl who isn't into it the way I am, but I haven't found that's a general consensus among men.
Quit projecting, and look up the meaning of coercion. There are many ways of changing minds and ramping up the chances of success. Your mind going straight to strong arm tactics or manipulation is quite telling.Don't use mind games and Coercion.
I thought you were at least reasonable. Now your talking like a misogynist..
I am done with this thread. I am not going to convince a bunch of PUA's that coercion is wrong in a relationship, and they wont convince me to use their mind games on women. I have stated my position that coercion is wrong and stand by it. I am for communication and honesty, not coercion.
Yeah, I see the difference. If two people have an established sexual rapport and it's just an 'eh I don't feel like it' not in the mood, vs. a real 'no', then in that case nagging can be harmlessly cute at worst, or at best turn to hot. As long as a person respects 'no' then I see no problem with it.
When a person who does not have that kind of relationship is just continually trying to get in the pants of someone who is clearly not interested, then it's a different creepy story.
I’ve been with my wife for 17 years now. We have a two year old and two 5 month olds twins.
There have been many times where I’ve bargained for sex with her.