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greenocelot
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Thanks for all your help guys from before. It has been a weird couple of months. If you read my last thread, you know that last year was not so good, but it actually got a little worse. I was offered a job in Osaka in January, and the employer told me that they had applied for the Visa before I had arrived, but they liked about it, so I was forced to come home because I would've had to live in Japan for 2 months with no income. But now, working as a janitor for the past 2 months, and saving, there is light at the end of the tunnel, i was offered a job as an ALT in Fukoka or an AP economics teacher in Liaoning, China. I had put in my two weeks and my last day was this past Friday. I am a young man excited about the future.
One question I wanted to ask your guys' opinion on. And this will be my last post here, I really do appreciate your help and support.
I had to move in with my dad and his wife after Osaka, for two weeks. My dad's wife, in all honesty, has over the entire period of time I've known her, kind of mean and acts in a creepy behavior ways a lot of the time. Because of this, I have given her so many chances. And I stand up to anybody (last week I stood up to our regional manager for being belittling and talking down to my co-workers), but i won't to her because I don't want to do the same to her because I don't want to jeopardize my dad's relationship with her. I just gave up on having a family type relationship with her because how she has treated me, literally given up, not in a mean way, but because if someone is mean like this to me I am confident enough to see this behavior as inconsequential to me. So I've just been engaging in avoidance.
So, I am excited bc about my opportunities, so it doesn't bother me anymore.
But my question to you, when I am gone within a few weeks, I don't want to give up on my relationship with my dad, but I don't see my relationship with her getting better, because she has not engaged in self reflection, and probably won't. I really don't like feeling this way, because I don't like feeling bad about anyone.
But when I am gone in a few weeks, how should I continue to conduct my relationship with my dad? People tell me, when I am removed from the situation it won't bother me, and they've offered me sympathy. But it's hard to remove someone from your thoughts as being inconsequential, when that person is tied to a family member.
One question I wanted to ask your guys' opinion on. And this will be my last post here, I really do appreciate your help and support.
I had to move in with my dad and his wife after Osaka, for two weeks. My dad's wife, in all honesty, has over the entire period of time I've known her, kind of mean and acts in a creepy behavior ways a lot of the time. Because of this, I have given her so many chances. And I stand up to anybody (last week I stood up to our regional manager for being belittling and talking down to my co-workers), but i won't to her because I don't want to do the same to her because I don't want to jeopardize my dad's relationship with her. I just gave up on having a family type relationship with her because how she has treated me, literally given up, not in a mean way, but because if someone is mean like this to me I am confident enough to see this behavior as inconsequential to me. So I've just been engaging in avoidance.
So, I am excited bc about my opportunities, so it doesn't bother me anymore.
But my question to you, when I am gone within a few weeks, I don't want to give up on my relationship with my dad, but I don't see my relationship with her getting better, because she has not engaged in self reflection, and probably won't. I really don't like feeling this way, because I don't like feeling bad about anyone.
But when I am gone in a few weeks, how should I continue to conduct my relationship with my dad? People tell me, when I am removed from the situation it won't bother me, and they've offered me sympathy. But it's hard to remove someone from your thoughts as being inconsequential, when that person is tied to a family member.
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