Know anyone that got screwed over in a divorce?

[Robocok]

Another piece of advice is to not get married or get a prenup or marry in a non alimony state - Texas, Nevada.

Question for sherdog lawyers: if you marry in a non-alimony state but live elsewhere are you still protected?

 

[blaseblah]

Another piece of advice is to not get married or get a prenup or marry in a non alimony state - Texas, Nevada.

Or marry up so you're the one getting alimony.

 

[TheRuthlessOne]

Dont get married you morons

 

[Kirin]

My aunt must be a dumb shit. She’s been divorced three times and she’s broke living in a trailer park working on wedding #4. Nobody taught her how to make bank I guess

At least you know what you have to look forward to.

 

[PolishHeadlock]

OP trying to rationalize why he isn't married lol

 

[sissypunch]

Marriage is a terrible deal for men. unless you marry @45ACP 's ex-wife.

 

[blaseblah]

I kinda got screwed. I was a stay at home dad as my ex-wife was and still is an executive for a major retailer. She literally made more than 3 times as much as me back then so it didn't make sense to put our kids in daycare which basically wiped out my entire pay and then some. When we got divorced, I did not get any alimony and I have to pay child support to the tune of half of my take home pay which means I was homeless for a while. The court make ZERO allowances for real world living conditions and only bases their determination on percentages and that is it. What she makes and what her husband makes is not relevant. Taking half of a monthly income of 3,000 hurts way more than it benefits the person getting it when they take home well over 5 figures a month.

Why did you not get alimony or custody?

 

[Ol'Ironhead]

I know plenty.

Just today, I found out that an old friend of mine had a divorce. The wife was hot. I know she was cheating on him.

He had to sell the house, cars, everything. She gets half of his 401k. He has to pay child support and alimony. She works 31 hours that way she's not "full time," to take advantage of alimony laws.

He's in his mid 50's. It's too late for him to start over. He lost his house, cars, etc...


What would you do if you were in this situation?

Anyone who doesn’t get a strict prenup in a marriage in today’s society is a complete moron.

How do people not consider these things prior to marriage ? People need to think more with their heads and not with their hearts

 

[Zer]

I kinda got screwed. I was a stay at home dad as my ex-wife was and still is an executive for a major retailer. She literally made more than 3 times as much as me back then so it didn't make sense to put our kids in daycare which basically wiped out my entire pay and then some. When we got divorced, I did not get any alimony and I have to pay child support to the tune of half of my take home pay which means I was homeless for a while. The court make ZERO allowances for real world living conditions and only bases their determination on percentages and that is it. What she makes and what her husband makes is not relevant. Taking half of a monthly income of 3,000 hurts way more than it benefits the person getting it when they take home well over 5 figures a month.

She had since had multiple promotions, gotten remarried, between their combined salary makes well into 6 figures (she makes over 130K on her own) which is about 4 times what I make and they live in a 5 bedroom house while I have never been able to afford to live on my own. I gave up 2 career path positions during our marriage so had to start all over at the bottom with not a lot of work history and no degree. (She doesn't have one either but she has worked for the same company for almost 20 years)

She also filed for bankruptcy while we were still married and refused to include me if I didn't pay half (which as I was homeless and paying child support on unemployment checks) was impossible at the time. Considering it would not have cost her anything to add me since we were still married she did it totally out of spite to fuck me over. So i was saddled with all of our debt including all credit cards, line of credit using our house as collateral we got to fix our house up which we were underwater on and had to do a short sale so we couldn't pay it back plus other various debt. I had to go to court multiple times back in 2008/2009 but as I was homeless and unemployment, the debts were written off and I thought were discharged.

So I finally got a decent job in 2010 where I still am although I don't make a lot and I am still paying close to half my take home pay to her. My grandmother died and left me a decent amount of money which I was going to use to FINALLY get a little ahead and buy a small condo and just not live check to check. Well what happens? That old line of credit debt rears its ugly head as they refiled last June and I had to file for bankruptcy. The bankruptcy trustee took everything I had and now I am looking at being homeless again in the near future unless I can find a very cheap place to live for about 4-500 a month (all included) which is all I can afford after my child support. I am a very involved dad and have never missed any payments no matter what. I see my kids from Friday night until Monday morning every week plus split school vacation weeks and holidays.

Good times.

Now I also have several medical conditions which limit the type of work I can do and also affect my appearance which has cost me promotions and job opportunities for those who will say just get a better job or work harder. It's not that simple. I work very hard and am highly praised at my job, but I can't really advance due to those issues.

Damn bro I feel for you. Hope it works out mate

 

[Ol'Ironhead]

This. Divorce in my state is very formula oriented. No one is really "getting screwed" as you are dividing up the marital assets 50/50 and then running a child support worksheet. Guess what? If your wife doesn't work and you paid for all of the shit, expect to lose half of it and pay a lot on child support. Everyone should know the rules going into it.

I have to pull divorce files often for my job. I've seen hundreds. I can only think of one where I'd say someone was truly screwed over. He gets divorced from his wife and they have a young son. They enter into a settlement agreement where he agrees to child support. A little bit after that, he gets clued in that the child may not be his. He runs a DNA test to confirm it is not his. He now wants the child support reversed. The wife had an argument based on two things - 1. He voluntarily entered into the settlement agreement which is supposed to settle all disputes. 2. The child treated him like the dad. In the end, he lost and will continue to pay support until the child is emancipated.

What a piece of scum woman. I’ve heard of this before. Feel bad for him. Bet he wants to murder her. I would probably ghost her if I was him.

 

[Danimal42082]

Yea, the vast majority of men who get divorced get fucked.

 

[Kardashians]

At least you know what you have to look forward to.

Eh. Not likely.

Tho one of her ex husbands died last week. He burned alive in his house. She was very happy about that.

Tbh he had a nice house so that’s unfortunate.

 

[Danimal42082]

I would never get married, ever. If I met a girl I wanted to spend my life with, I would do just that. Why add a legal binding to something you don’t have to

 

[Loiosh]

He's in his mid 50's. It's too late for him to start over. He lost his house, cars, etc...

I disagree that it's too late.

It's just harder.

 

[ProBoxingInsidr]

paul mccartney. he got divorced a couple years ago from some bitch he was only married to for like 3 years. she ended up getting like 80 million or some shit. why the hell would she get that? he made 99.9% of his money well before he met her. shit like this has to change. just because you conned some guy into getting married for a short time doesnt mean you are entitled to half of everything he has ever made, or even a significant chunk of it.

that woman should have got like 1000 pounds a month

 

[wlu.29]

marry a woman that makes/owns as much as you then it's a non issue

 

[Kowboy Karl]

I know one that got married to a long time off on relationship

He’s a nit money wise
Tuna can eaten unplugging every thing that has a plug to save on electricity type

Found out she had 100k in cc debt after the wedding

Now if he divorces her he’s stuck with half the bill lol

All the other screw jobs mainly got worked on child support

 

[plataoplombo]

I would never get married, ever. If I met a girl I wanted to spend my life with, I would do just that. Why add a legal binding to something you don’t have to

Doesn't matter from what I've heard. She can be considered your common law wife and still take your shit.

 

[Prefect]

I don't know. If you think you got screwed for parting with 50%, does that mean while you were married you thought it was all yours? Playing devils advocate but I do question that miindset.

 

[plataoplombo]

That sense of entitlement is insane. They really think everything you worked for and built is theirs. If they pop out a kid, omg forget about it. Granted, if both parties agree that one will stay home while the other works, then yeah 50-50.