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Devout Pessimist
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I watched the video it's not an argument that women must get married or that they should avoid premarital sex.
It's an explanation that if a woman's goal is to find a man to get married and have that lifestyle then she should do so early in their dating life. A very true statement. But it's not an insistence that women should have that goal. They can have differing goals...so long as they understand the consequences of that choice.
The religious position is that women must have that goal and that any other goal is a mistake.
That wouldn't make Southern a hypocrite unless she, herself, has espoused that her goal is to get married.
That is a good point. If the goal is to find a good partner, then the person looking has to sincerely live their life in a manner that will attract good people. Recently, I have noticed a few people use the word goal to make a larger point about desirable behavior. The one example is in a video I posted earlier in this thread by the Golden One. He was talking about pick-up artists and the larger meta-political cultural war. He asked them what is their goal? Do they want to pick up women or fight the culture that objectifies women. If they want to fight the culture then they have to give up their foolish pick-up artist ways.
The "what is your goal" question is a smart approach to preaching about moral behavior because it gives a choice and it puts responsibility on the person making the choice. They can live how they want to, but if they are serious about their goal, then they will change their behavior. It is much more effective than telling people what they should be doing.