I am trans (MtF). Ask me anything.

I haven't lost interest in this thread and intend to answer questions. I was A.) busy and B.) less motivated to spend time on it after it was moved to the OT.

Thanks to whomever moved it back.

I'll be back to answering questions shortly.
 
You wouldn't happen to work for Tesladyne would you? (just curious if your "action scientist" is a reference to Atomic Robo or Real Science Adventures...)
 
If they could make a perfect copy of the female reproductive system, would you go full transition? I think if I were trans one of my main misgivings in transition is that the "vagina" they give you is some kind of Frankenstein's monster of penis and wrist tissue...
 
Zankou said:
Couple of questions that were unclear....

Were you gay before the transition?

Do you have a desire to bear a child? Is being trans associated with maternal ideas? I always hear it described as an essentially sexual thing, not a reproductive thing.

Thanks for posting a bold thread btw. Didn't see this coming. Best of luck with the situation.
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I was outwardly (and mostly inwardly) a straight guy until fairly recently. The gayest thing I ever did was have sex with a couple of ladyboys in Thailand and with one in the Philippines.

Bearing a child? In a weird sort of fantasy way, but not seriously. Actually rearing a child, yes, but as of now, that is off the table unless I choose to adopt. At 40, bearing a child if I was biologically female would be an option that would be nearly off the table for me anyway.
 
capnlarge said:
If they could make a perfect copy of the female reproductive system, would you go full transition? I think if I were trans one of my main misgivings in transition is that the "vagina" they give you is some kind of Frankenstein's monster of penis and wrist tissue...
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A perfect copy? Then without a doubt, I'd be onboard.

To answer previous questions on gender reassignment surgery (or the currently preferred term "gender affirmation surgery") is that this is a complex issue with complicated answers.

Gender reassignment surgery is a massively complicated surgery that permanently alters the function of not just a single body function, but alters in irrevocable ways the function of the entire body and that is a scary, scary thing. For someone who is hitting their 40s, such as myself, there are a number of factors that should cause pause in terms of recovery, complications and benefit versus potential costs.

For one, age plays a huge role in your body's ability to recover from such massive, body altering surgery. These are not 100% assured successes for young people, much less those in middle age. I don't heal from minor wounds as well as I use to in my 20s and 30s. When you hit your late 30s and 40s, you can feel your body breaking down. You don't recover as well as you used to from minor cuts, your joints don't feel as good as they used to, your sight starts to go, etc. The idea of a surgery to take what is there and to turn it inside out and to spend a year or more in recovery is a daunting thought.

Psychologically, there are a number of reasons why I am attached to my penis. For one, I still get off by penile stimulation and have a good time with my prostate so the idea of the chance of losing that is particularly daunting. There are a significant number of people (including porn stars) that report that they have been unable to achieve orgasm in any way after surgery. To go from being able to get off via any number of routes to potentially never being able to get off ever again is a very, very scary thought.

For someone who is younger, there is much more to gain and mush less to lose. At age 40, much more to lose, especially in terms of familiarity and comfort, than there is to potentially gain. That's probably why I won't go through with bottom surgery.

OTOH, if all surgeries were 100% successes, then it'd be a no brainer. Buttsex can be a pain in the ass to prepare for. It doesn't allow for 100% spontaneity as vaginal sex.
 
sgt jumpy said:
Hey, Doughbelly, thanks for posting.

Definitely one of the best Mayberry posters. Very thoughtful with great stories and experiences to share. I haven't read through the entire thread but I have browsed some of your posts in this thread.

I noticed you said you want to keep your penis and testicles. My question is, if that is the case, why take the hormones? Can you not just live your life style the way you want without the need to transition hormonally? I guess that, since you'll still physically be equipped as a man, I don't quite understand the need to go through with hormone treatments, as in your head and heart you are who you are and no amount of hormone treatments will change that, right?

Sorry if you've answered similar questions.
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Well, there are a lot of reasons someone might not want to go through with surgery, especially being the risky, irreversible process that it is.

Likewise, hormones are a risk as well, but the risks are much better understood and easier to mitigate.

On the plus sides, hormones bring a lot to the table. On the time I've been on hormones, I've noticed a number of changes in my body, some, most or all of which are reversible if it turns out this is not for me.

For one, my emotional state has changed. I am much more emotional than I used to be, especially in terms of empathy and sympathy. I cry or tear up at the drop of a hat, it seems. And I can be more irritable and overreact to certain things. (I am giving a lot of you ammunition for the next PMS argument with the girfriend/wife).

My skin, which has always been rough, has thinned out and become much softer and feminine. I have gained weight (a frustrating lot) but a lot of it ended up in the right places - ass, hips and tits. Clothes fit better and in a more pleasingly feminine shape. So hormones are a huge aesthetic and emotional step in the right direction.

Plus for me, hormones were the real start of my transition. Before hormones, I was just a guy dressed as a girl. Sometimes pretty passingly. Starting the hormones marked my internal status as going from that to a person in transition who lived as a woman.
 
tdko said:
I support the LGB community, not the T. Your mentally ill, I'm sorry society has tricked you.
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*you're <StannisFrown>

absolutely nothing to do with society or mental illness, take your shitty comments elsewhere.

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@Doughbelly -- what's been the most eye opening experience for you living as a woman?
 
tdko said:
I wasn't trying to be funny, many people are gay because an older relative fondled them, I assume that's the case for either you or ja'mychal, probably both.
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why is this dude not banned yet? are the mods all on the alt right payroll or something.
 
tdko said:
I wasn't trying to be funny, many people are gay because an older relative fondled them, I assume that's the case for either you or ja'mychal, probably both.
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why is this dude not banned yet? are the mods all on the alt right payroll or something.
 
mushishi said:
What was your porn viewing habits, before and after the trans?

And during the teen and early adult years, did you find yourself attracted to men and women?
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Tranny porn, all the way!

I've found myself attracted to men romantically only very recently. In a sense, I'd be lying to myself though to say that there couldn't have been a physical one. How else could I have been imagining myself in the girl's (trans or not) place when watching tranny porn?

Complicated and interesting question that I will have to expand on later.
 
HomeRun916 said:
Do your feet smell as bad as before? Or do they smell more feminine?
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My body odor has definitely changed since I've been on hormones.

My feet smell less, but are still stinky. But it turns out some guys are into that.

Some guy wanted to pee on my feet once, but I'm not into that.
 
frenzy said:
o.

his name is yellow, i thought that was dubbs?
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Maybe it's a suspension? If I click on his profile it says error like when you're banned. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about :confused:
 
M3t4tr0n said:
Maybe it's a suspension? If I click on his profile it says error like when you're banned. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about :confused:
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I saw a post by a mod saying he's banned banned. Not sure why his name is still yellow. Not really worth thinking about. Just another troll who long overstayed their welcome.
 
Defanged said:
What if you're just a gay dude ? Why go through with the hell of changing bodies when you could just bang dudes ? Or, why not just try to change your mental plane and try to become attracted to women ? It seems logistically and financially cheaper than hacking your genitals off.
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In the time immediately before starting hormonal transition, I was living part time as a woman, part as a man. I got tried sex with a guy as a guy in different contexts and scenarios. Here's what I discovered: I am not a gay man. Sex as a gay man doesn't do it for me and I find myself not at all attracted to men when I was a man or was in guy mode in the part time period.

This is something that I could write an entire chapter about, but that is the short version of it.
 
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