How has your social life been since you started training?

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I have been strength training pretty dang heavy for almost 5 months and I must say, I really dont have the energy to do anything else. I work 4 days a week walking 8-10 miles per shift. Get off around 4-5, go to the gym, get some dinner, watch fights and go to bed. By the time I get home and eat dinner, I am completely gassed and don't really have time or energy to go on dates or hangout with friends. On my days off I am busy with working on my car, doing housework, taking care of my dad. I will usually have 1 day a week where I dont have to do much, but that day I usually stay home clean and just try to recover. Last night I slept 10.5 hours after working and training!

I guess I can't complain, my life is much better since I have started training, but I must say I don't get out too much.

How do you balance your work/life/training schedule?
 
Depends, years back when I was only lifting and playing basketball, my social life was pretty normal for the most part

Now when I started MMA, that was different, especially when I started competing, my social life really took a dive with that. I basically became a monk, and ignored all social events except for my teammates. I've had a relationship fall through because of it. I was training 6 days a week with 4 of those being 2x a day. The ex couldn't handle the schedule and things fell through in the end. My social life took a hit because I took fights back to back leaving me with little to no social life.

I do know now how to balance things so I'm not to stringent on everything. Back then I felt if I missed a session I would be ruined. Now I'm more calm about it.

How is your diet and sleep? If you're eating too little while handling alot of volume, then you'll run into problems. And it sounds like your job is a physical job which would shoot your TDEE up significantly.
Is this scheudle change new to you? If so, its just DOMS and you'll adapt over time.
 
In wrestling and judo, my only friends were on the team. We hung out after etc.

When i moved to my current location, i had no friends due to university really.

Now, easier that i can work, train,see my wifey and stuff. Easier to manage actually. Adulting is yard bro yo.

Sunday is my rest day, as I've learned from my program to use active recovery well, I find training volume not an issue. Internal motivation added to that, my only time off now is if i have a function or im injured.
 
Wrestling

In HS, I had no life. I lived the lifestyle of a champion. I lifted and ran in the mornings and wrestled in the afternoons. I didn’t do anything but train year round. I won a lot of matches and beat some really good guys.

In college, I was on a college wrestling team with no leadership and I was a kid who was experiencing freedom for the first time. Beer, weed, women. I still went to practice but it broke me. I was trying to serve too many masters.

Now as a coach? I have much more balance especially since I quit teaching and just coach full time haha! But seriously, I was doing well with lifting in the mornings before school and we had practice in the early afternoon. My wife and I still found time to go out on Saturday nights, go to dinner one weeknight, and I have a weekly poker/cigar game on Monday nights
 
I don't have too much of a social life really. I go for a curry with friends once every month and that's about it. The rest of my free time I enjoy spending with my girlfriend and kids and I like it that way. Did plenty of socialising in my teens and twenties but didn't have as many commitments then.
 
Training just simply improves the quality of my social life.
 
I'm 39 with a wife and kids, I do what they want. I have friends over to train in my gym and that's my down time. Sunday is football day and that is social, but going out to hang out? Shit that ain't happened in years.
 
social life?

what do you mean by that?

like... pleasing other people with polite behavior? i dont do that.

sometimes i go out alone to eat something nasty or drink a beer. I like going out just to judge other people u know...nothing wrong with that unless you start talking shit. I just keep it to myself. Im a good person :)

sometimes i go to a good friend of mine place and just hang, talk, cook etc.
sometimes i go to a football match
sometimes i travel.
sometime i go to a concert.

it doesnt mean im a social person. I really dont have the skills anymore. I lost it toghether with my mental heath during my early 20´s.

One of the reasons i train is to compensate the lack of social interaction.
To be honest i think you have realized its a matter of choice and/or interest. Are you interested in drinking and partying hard all night? Will be hard to be an athlete doing that....Are you committed with what?

When you are in HS or college you have people at your surroundings all the time and the tendency is to get toghether, chat, interact. When all of that comes to an end you gotta choose where you want to be and with whom. Thats the beauty of growing up. You get to choose. Dont like your training partners at your gym? Go to another place. Dont like your girlfriend? Get another. Friends? Choose only the the best.

thats it.
 
frango said:
social life?

what do you mean by that?

like... pleasing other people with polite behavior? i dont do that.

sometimes i go out alone to eat something nasty or drink a beer. I like going out just to judge other people u know...nothing wrong with that unless you start talking shit. I just keep it to myself. Im a good person :)

sometimes i go to a good friend of mine place and just hang, talk, cook etc.
sometimes i go to a football match
sometimes i travel.
sometime i go to a concert.

it doesnt mean im a social person. I really dont have the skills anymore. I lost it toghether with my mental heath during my early 20´s.

One of the reasons i train is to compensate the lack of social interaction.
To be honest i think you have realized its a matter of choice and/or interest. Are you interested in drinking and partying hard all night? Will be hard to be an athlete doing that....Are you committed with what?

When you are in HS or college you have people at your surroundings all the time and the tendency is to get toghether, chat, interact. When all of that comes to an end you gotta choose where you want to be and with whom. Thats the beauty of growing up. You get to choose. Dont like your training partners at your gym? Go to another place. Dont like your girlfriend? Get another. Friends? Choose only the the best.

thats it.
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Last two paragraphs sum it up, especially the last one.
 
In my younger years training did not interfere with my social life. A wife and kid took care of that.
 
Never been into parties, when I visited Montreal was all training and the typical tourism, I like my lifestyle and honestly admire people who can do it all.
 
working out and kickboxing has replaced the bulk of my social life, and I'm ok with it. I'm 36 with a partner & three kids, and a full time job, so my time to myself is limited.

As I got more and more interested in training (getting better at kickboxing and then getting stronger/fitter from regular gym workouts), the appeal of "going out" started to drop away. It's not like I hate socialising or anything, but I drink less, for example, not because I don't enjoy it, but because I know if I have more than one beer on any given night, plus maybe not the greatest food on earth, I'm gonna feel like shit at the gym the next day, and I don't want that. And it pretty much all stemmed from there; I don't drink much because it feels shit the next day, and I don't want to spend the money on something that's gonna make me feel like shit the next day either; and I don't wanna be out late because I'll be tired the next day etc etc.

I get coffee or lunch regularly with one or two friends, and probably once a month or every other month go to some kinda pro wrestling or mma show with a couple different friends, and that's all the socialising I need.
 
My sherbros

Keep embracing the grind, its inspiring to hear from you all.

Before training I only hung out with my 2 best friends and its still that way. I have a handful of people that I get together with at least once a year, but I am more then happy with how things are right now. I have set some goals, and it feels good to live up to them.

My current goals are to get strong as fuck, then go to a MMA specfic gym and take at least an amateur fight, but I need to save some more money. I have been thinking of becoming a CPT and doing that on the side with my current job. I want to accomplish all of this within the next year.
 
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Legendary said:
My sherbros

Keep embracing the grind, its inspiring to hear from you all.

Before training I only hung out with my 2 best friends and its still that way. I have a handful of people that I get together with at least once a year, but I am more then happy with how things are right now. I have set some goals, and it feels good to live up to them.

My current goals are to get strong as fuck, then go to a MMA specfic gym and take at least an amateur fight, but I need to save some more money. I have been thinking of becoming a CPT and doing that on the side with my current job. I want to accomplish all of this within the next year.
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Peesonal trainer? I have some E books i can email you if you ever get interested.
 
Social life - dead

High pressure sales job - 50 or so hours a week minimum primarily home based
35-40 miles a week running - unless doing a track session with someone else from the running club I generally run on my own as too much time wasted getting to someone elses, run, the chat after etc...
Climbing one a week - normally a few hours of socialising but generally with fellow obstacle racers
Gym 2-3 times a week - On my own to just get stuff done
 
You should do what makes you happy!
 
My social life is better when I train. When I don’t train I feel uncomfortable.
 
i'm going back a ways, 20 plus years ago, when no one in the UK gave a fuck about lifting, for sport or aesthetics, everything was still pretty niche with the exception of football/soccer.... if you were technically pretty decent, that was enough, it was still very much a social thing, you would train a little midweek and play on a Saturday, some would appear at the pick up point, looking like death warmed up, having been social with friend to the wee hours of the Saturday morning, we'd play our fixture, get back to our town, then booze, going from pub to pub until 1 or 2 am.

jump forward a decade and a bit, started MMA ,gave up booze the better I got, zero social life as I trained 6 days a week,.

social lives are overrated, wish I had have known that in my 20's, I was probably fitter and in far better shape on my 40th birthday, than any birthday I had in my 20's
 
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