How do you deal with serious depression?

[Nesruk]

Sorry man that sucks. Good luck. It's almost impossible to never get discouraged, but do your best to stay positive.

One of the things I tell people that has worked for me in situations like yours, is to make a list for yourself of things you need to do. Break it down so it doesn't seem overwhelming (just writing "get a job" on your list isn't going to help, and will likely just add to your anxiety).

Once you have an itemized list, and you know what you need to do to accomplish your goals, put your head down, and just start working towards one thing at a time. Even if it's the smallest little thing, like updating your resume, or even sending out just one job application, reward and congratulate yourself with every little accomplishment. While you're doing that, try as hard as you can to keep anything beyond those one or two goals out of your mind until you've completed them. Take it one small step at a time. When you do this for a long enough period of time, eventually you'll kind of pick your head up to look around, and you'll see how far you've come and it will almost seem like it happened by itself.

You got this buddy!

I've been doing this lately myself and find it really helps. Makes the days feel a bit more meaningful for me which is great since I am not working currently.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

How do you deal with debilitating depression? The usual just don't cut it.

Excersise. Good diet. Sex.

If you cant get sex the conventional way.....then go buy one of those super life like sex dolls, but you need to get off!!

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I tried drinking, tried exercising and taking fights, smashing everything on tinder, tried different challenges to distract me like running marathons and ultra running, it's all just distractions though. If you push through the bad shit, a week, a month, two months you'll start to feel better agin, but it will come back.
The thing that worked for me is drastic life style change. I was fucking rotting in my little rut, but I was comfortable. Getting paid well, decent truck, my own property, but I was miserable.
I quit my job, moved, started dating girls instead of just fucking randoms and now I'm genuinely happy. It still comes back, particularly in winter, but nowhere near as bad, and nowhere near as long.

If you don't have a family doctor, go get one. I tried to get help when I was ta my lowest from a walk in clinic, told them I was drinking a bottle a day and couldn't find reason to get out of bed. They told me to go find a family doctor or to go to ER if I was suicidle, otherwise I could go fuck myself they weren't interested. Problem was there was a waiting list to get a family doctor 6-8week. I took vacation from work, drank for a few more day and managed to get my shit together. If you can get one now they might be able to help you before you hit the bottom

You need to pick things and stick with it. Looks to me like you "try" tjings then revert back to your old ways.

Youd be surprised how far a diet change and consistent excersise can change you ....literally everything changed for me, new career, new lifestyle, new women, new found happiness in how i am .....the problem with most people is just sticking to it.

 

[bjjHERRERA]

heard it once said that depression was "anger turned inside with the feeling of a helpless inability to change it". since that day ive done everything i can to "let go" of my internal anger. and all i can say is that the mental training of dropping the weights of anger and resentment i was carrying around has helped me tremendously when it comes to depression. also, living in a country where clean water, a toilet, food, shelter, and opportunity are so readily available has made it hard for me to feel sad about my life. especially knowing how many people are suffering right now without any of those comforts. counting ones blessings is a true comfort in the throes of depression in my experience.

 

[Count Zero]

porn and video games

 

[drstrangelov]

My advice, from past experience, is to give yourself over to something fully. Just commit a ton of time and energy into anything at all besides thinking about yourself. Nobody's depressed in the middle of a workout, or while frantically trying to solve a mechanical problem that could save your ass. These things might be considered distractions, but if you line up enough of them, that just becomes life, and the worrying becomes a distraction from all the stuff you're doing. At the very least you'll be empowered by seeing a clear cause and effect relationship in your actions.

Also, if you're on antidepressants, and you switch treatments, don't be afraid to seek some inpatient psych treatment if shit turns dark. That transitional period can be a killer.

 

[TribalDrumz]

Good morning guys. I increased my medication a bit and squatted weights this morning ! I feel great but that might just be the caffeine

 

[TSO]

How do you deal with debilitating depression? The usual just don't cut it.

if its debilitating, then by definition it's not being dealt with.

To not let depression become debilitating you can do.what I do. I look at people worse off than me doing well, and use it for inspiration. I also look at people that are well off and throw it all away and use that to spur myself on to not do the same.

 

[NAKMUAY18]

You need to pick things and stick with it. Looks to me like you "try" tjings then revert back to your old ways.
be surprised how far a diet change and consistent excersise can change you ....literally everything changed for me, new career, new lifestyle, new women, new found happiness in how i am .....the problem with most people is just sticking to it.

That would be a negative there big shooter, you don’t run an ultramarathon without sticking at things. You also have to have a decent diet and some regular exercise to run for 8hrs a time. I’ve also trained and fought Muay Thai and bjj for 8 or 9 years now, same career area for 15.
Discipline is different than motivation. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should. If the fundamentals of your life are off, you need to assess the problem take the inevitable pain that comes with change and do it. Things like exercise and diet are an Tylenol to cover the real issue.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

That would be a negative there big shooter, you don’t run an ultramarathon without sticking at things. You also have to have a decent diet and some regular exercise to run for 8hrs a time. I’ve also trained and fought Muay Thai and bjj for 8 or 9 years now, same career area for 15.
Discipline is different than motivation. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should. If the fundamentals of your life are off, you need to assess the problem take the inevitable pain that comes with change and do it. Things like exercise and diet are an Tylenol to cover the real issue.

Thats your experience and opinion, mine is mine. Mine worked and continues to work for me. One thing we all should make note of is that everyone is different. I wouldnt say excersise and diet are like a tylenol to cover up the real problem. Its really based on how extreme the problem is to begin with and go from there. All im saying is it definitely helps a hell of a lot more then drinking and eating the pain away.

 

[RetiredSlave]

Its hard to say even though Ive thought about it extensively. I was a scared, insecure and angry child that bled over into my adult life.

About ten years ago I fell into an occupation involving helping people with physical and mental disabilities. More than anything else that changed my perspective, because when you see the smile and hear the laughter of a man with cerebral palsy youre forced to evaluate yourself.

A severely mentally handicapped man showed me what true gratitude looks like and Im forever grateful for it. RIP Gordie. Gratitude is a key that opens a lot of doors to greener pastures inside your own mind.

Everyone has the potential of being a motherfucking beast mentally but its gotta be worked on. Good luck everyone.

 

[CWMMA]

Eat right. Exercise. Get into the sun. Find a goal and work towards it. Build relationships. Put yourself first.

 

[GordoBarraBJJ]

seek professional and medical help.

medication, CBT, mediation, diet, exercise, in my case adding CBD to my regime.

Even with all that it is still always "there" in the background (if that makes sense).

Past few days have been a struggle to not succumb to that storm that has been brewing.

 

[DrVanNostrand]

 

[melvinj0]

Marijuana
Comedy
Pussy

^ that’s really all that’s holding me together

 

[NAKMUAY18]

Thats your experience and opinion, mine is mine. Mine worked and continues to work for me. One thing we all should make note of is that everyone is different. I wouldnt say excersise and diet are like a tylenol to cover up the real problem. Its really based on how extreme the problem is to begin with and go from there. All im saying is it definitely helps a hell of a lot more then drinking and eating the pain away.

I agree with you there completely. A health lifestyle is excellent if your down. I think major life changes can help minor depression and fulfilment, real depression takes medication and counseling.
“There’s levels to this shit”

 

[EL CORINTHIAN]

I beleive we can bio-hack depression completely away. It's not necessarily something we want to hear but I beleive it works and has worked for me. This is what I did when I got depressed.

1) Start your day as you usually would (forcefully) - when people are depressed they have a finite amount of willpower and this fucks with there normal schedule. Try not to let it affect your usual sleep pattern or dietary habits or even what you would usually do at certain times. These are integral to the healing process because disturbances here only worsen the healing process.

2) Eat as clean as possible - you absolutely need to be eating clean, nutrient dense foods to help you combat any chemical disturbances in your body. Some people have an issue with not having an appetite and if that's the case try to make what ever you do eat nutritional powerhouses. I basically made calorically/nutritionally dense shakes to help choke it down. My shakes were made up of full fat milk, kiwis, bananas, whey protein, spinach, oats, cocao and cracked a few eggs in there. I'm not going for taste here.

3) supplementation - KSM-66 (ashwaghanda extract) is my go to for depression. Slashes cortisol by a large margin and reduces anxiety. Also try supplementing with undutched cocao powder , the non alkalized stuff. The theombrine, caffeine and cocoamime all work synergistically as an upper and this is no bull shit. It works.

4) Go to the gym- we live in a society that robs us of our humanity. We need to arouse our physical existence by doing something as visceral as lifting heavy shit or some form of cardio to help release some endorphins. Not only that but having micro victories day in day out is integral to beating this. Also when you look better you just feel and operate better.

5) Stick to your closest friends - one commonality I noticed among the blue zones of the world (places where people have the highest life expectancy) is that they come from a tight knit community, these people are genuinely happy and experience less lonliness because they socialize often and are able to create very strong bonds between them. We are tribalistic in nature and when we have way too much variety and selection we start to go a little crazy. This is why in mega metropolises people experience loneliness way more than they do in little villages. Socialise with your "tribe", strengthen your relationship with them and find the beauty in who they are. Talk to them about your issues but he cognisant of the fact that they also have loves that they don't want bogged down all the time. But don't take that the wrong way, let their normality guide you into it as well.

6) Set goals and stick to them - without goals life becomes meaningless. When you are depressed you feel as though you have no reason to go on. You have to give yourself a reason to do so by making goals and sticking to them. We operate best when we know we have a task at hand.