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If their bullying is verbal and social in nature, then she will need to defend herself on those terms; with her words. Bullying often has power because the bully has their passive bullies standing around enjoying the taunting or just too afraid to stand up to the bully when they aren't being bullied themselves. This means that she needs to disconnect the social aspect of the passive bullies from the verbal taunts of the main bully. The best way to do this is with humorous insults. If she can stand her ground verbally against the bully and then make the surrounding observers laugh at the bully, then she takes away the social reinforcement of the bullying acts. The bully has less incentive to keep it going. The bully then has the choice to up the ante and get physical or to say something to save face whilst withdrawing (e.g. "you're not worth it). So make a game with your sister to creatively insult each other (e.g. "you are dumber than the offspring between the village idiot and the tv weather girl", "Let's at least ask someone who's at least going to give us a slightly more intelligent opinion. Hello, wall! What do you think? ". This is a game that you can play over the phone or even by email. Have fun, make each other laugh and give her the ammunition to help her defend herself from the ostracism of bullies.