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how come bjj often ruin's people's social/sex life??
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A lot of this is true.
BJJ guys tend to go all in and it's really cringe worthy when they start talking about lifestyle shit.
It's fun and can give you a feeling of escape and meaning but you gotta do other shit and think about other shit.
BJJ guys tend to go all in and it's really cringe worthy when they start talking about lifestyle shit.
It's fun and can give you a feeling of escape and meaning but you gotta do other shit and think about other shit.
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you are a boss..sounds awesome
for me tomorrow is go to a TERRIBLE NAGA event where I will coach probably 40+ students, unfortunately skip ADCC, then the crowning moment of the day is going out for dinner with my awesome girlfriend
usually saturdays for me is teach classic the late morning to early afternoon, train till late afternoon, then chill with my girl
basically, I'm bothered that I won't be training tomorrow
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Use BJJ in the sack.
2 for the price of one. Work on triangles and turtle control
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The thing is it's true for a lot of sports. Ski bums, rock climbing bums, alpineering bums... A friend of mine used to be on the national kayaking team. When I commented on how it must have been a cool life, he said "not really, you make 20K a year, you spend 4-7 hours training your ass of and then you spend the rest of the time playing WOW because you're too exhausted for anything else".
Newsflash: BJJ isn't that special.
I think some people just have personalities where they dive into things head first and just spend all their time doing that activity. The activity can vary. Personally, I have more sex now than when I was playing World of Warcraft for at least 30 hours a week. This is probably because I have more free time now.
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Sounds exactly like combat sports
You start out as pro and if you make $1000 (600 to show, 1k to win) a fight, its like hitting the jackpot.
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Lack of sex and social life is a choice. It has nothing to do with bjj.
Back when I used to train 3x a week and watch instructionals and comp footage around the clock, I still found time to travel, get laid, go to hip hop shows, etc.
A super easy way is to invite people to your place. Make it a fun place to hang out. Good music, good food, decently decorated.
Having kick backs or game nights at your place is a super easy way to have a social life and sex life. Also, learn how to cook. That's a big plus.
Come to think of it, I think that's how it worked out for me since I was so busy. My spot was the hangout spot so the party always came to me. Since it was considered a fun spot to hang out, girls would come over all the time. After the club. Just to hang out. To sleep off their hangovers. Sometimes I'd cook for them. Sometimes they'd cook for me. Sometimes I'd just be in my room chilling while a few people hung out in the living room. Sometimes when I was hanging by myself a girl would sneak away from the crowd and sneak into my room. If you have an open door policy and know how to entertain, the party comes to you and life is much easier.
But enough reminiscing. Social life and sex life are a choice. Unless you're ugly. Then it's a struggle. But if you're in reasonably good shape and not poor, it's not hard to make a social life happen. Anyone missing out is missing out because they want to.
Back when I used to train 3x a week and watch instructionals and comp footage around the clock, I still found time to travel, get laid, go to hip hop shows, etc.
A super easy way is to invite people to your place. Make it a fun place to hang out. Good music, good food, decently decorated.
Having kick backs or game nights at your place is a super easy way to have a social life and sex life. Also, learn how to cook. That's a big plus.
Come to think of it, I think that's how it worked out for me since I was so busy. My spot was the hangout spot so the party always came to me. Since it was considered a fun spot to hang out, girls would come over all the time. After the club. Just to hang out. To sleep off their hangovers. Sometimes I'd cook for them. Sometimes they'd cook for me. Sometimes I'd just be in my room chilling while a few people hung out in the living room. Sometimes when I was hanging by myself a girl would sneak away from the crowd and sneak into my room. If you have an open door policy and know how to entertain, the party comes to you and life is much easier.
But enough reminiscing. Social life and sex life are a choice. Unless you're ugly. Then it's a struggle. But if you're in reasonably good shape and not poor, it's not hard to make a social life happen. Anyone missing out is missing out because they want to.
some very good points have been made by you guys,
but i do have to add, i have done other sports and know people
who have a whole variety of things and this "bjj lifestyle" is not very common to others.
also about going out, it does not have to be to a club or another place for that matter,
anywhere where your social and meet people counts(watching fights with your friends does not count)
also of course when someone gets to compete in any sport the social life drops off
but the problem with bjj people is that many live this odd lifestyle when they are not
completive or some some cases not even in good shape.
the social life aspect to me is simple and it has to do very little with actual bjj but
the lifestyle
if a cross fit guy mainly hangs out with cross-fit people from his class on a weekend
he will watch the cross fit games and chill with his crew of 15, 8 guys and 7 girls for example
a bjj guy does the same and watches the ufc or adcc etc
his crew from class is 14 guys and 2 women....
see why the bjj needs the change in social life more then the cross-fit guy...
also a big thing which is needs to be addressed a bit is the joe rogan thing,
it's werid when you bring up any topic and the response is " well on joe rogan this and that"
yes bjj has helped a lot of people to defend themselves and in some cases be social
but the way bjj lifestyle is very different from many people live in other sports...some good and some bad but no need pretend everyone else is living the same way....just talking to many people from other athletic fields and you will see a difference.
so yeah going to a club and getting hammered all the time is not good for sure
but saying in on every friday night or even some in cases doing the following on even on vacations
is not good too( everyone is out and your sitting in your hotel room listening to robin black breakdowns lol)
both extremes suck lol
but i do have to add, i have done other sports and know people
who have a whole variety of things and this "bjj lifestyle" is not very common to others.
also about going out, it does not have to be to a club or another place for that matter,
anywhere where your social and meet people counts(watching fights with your friends does not count)
also of course when someone gets to compete in any sport the social life drops off
but the problem with bjj people is that many live this odd lifestyle when they are not
completive or some some cases not even in good shape.
the social life aspect to me is simple and it has to do very little with actual bjj but
the lifestyle
if a cross fit guy mainly hangs out with cross-fit people from his class on a weekend
he will watch the cross fit games and chill with his crew of 15, 8 guys and 7 girls for example
a bjj guy does the same and watches the ufc or adcc etc
his crew from class is 14 guys and 2 women....
see why the bjj needs the change in social life more then the cross-fit guy...
also a big thing which is needs to be addressed a bit is the joe rogan thing,
it's werid when you bring up any topic and the response is " well on joe rogan this and that"
yes bjj has helped a lot of people to defend themselves and in some cases be social
but the way bjj lifestyle is very different from many people live in other sports...some good and some bad but no need pretend everyone else is living the same way....just talking to many people from other athletic fields and you will see a difference.
so yeah going to a club and getting hammered all the time is not good for sure
but saying in on every friday night or even some in cases doing the following on even on vacations
is not good too( everyone is out and your sitting in your hotel room listening to robin black breakdowns lol)
both extremes suck lol
but long story short
a bjj guy needs leave his bjj nest often for the simple fact that
bjj is like 90 percent guys, so if he is single and mainly just hangs out with his
bjj crew, then he will surrounded by 90 percent guys, which will not help chances
with women lol
a bjj guy needs leave his bjj nest often for the simple fact that
bjj is like 90 percent guys, so if he is single and mainly just hangs out with his
bjj crew, then he will surrounded by 90 percent guys, which will not help chances
with women lol
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I think a lot of guys think of jiu Jitsu as their girlfriend. They dedicate themselves to it, dream about it, think it's their true love.
My ex wife said that jiu Jitsu was "the other woman." She couldn't really handle it. She was jealous that I cared so much about it. Our social circles had not one jiu Jitsu athlete. She was hoping that I would just find another hobby.
Long story short, the marriage ended, I dove deep into the jiu Jitsu lifestyle. Women came along for the ride.
The past ten years have been the best years of my life.
My ex wife said that jiu Jitsu was "the other woman." She couldn't really handle it. She was jealous that I cared so much about it. Our social circles had not one jiu Jitsu athlete. She was hoping that I would just find another hobby.
Long story short, the marriage ended, I dove deep into the jiu Jitsu lifestyle. Women came along for the ride.
The past ten years have been the best years of my life.
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Or you don’t know how to use your hips
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That's true. The last 3 women for some reason thought I was cheating, they didn't believe that training twice a day while working was real, and thought another chick was there. I'm up at 5:30 for S&C, and night training from 6-10 PM. I get home at 11pm, and wiped. Not to mention when in camp, can't exactly eat junk food and drink so that capped off most social gatherings.
Then cut week comes along and I'm an emotional trainwreck ready to murder everyone in sight. At the end of the day when I think about it, its a selfish sport. What really drove them off was "Its good, the fight's in 2 weeks, after that I can relax and whatever"... then on the day of the event, I get told there's another one coming up in a month, so I end up doing another camp back to back.
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The bolded sounds terrible!
I hope no one on vacations stays in a hotel watches robin black.
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