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My dad has two daughters with another women before meeting my mom and having me. He was never in their lives from the beginning basically. He has had spurts of contact with them throughout their lives, but nothing constant. To them he is a dead beat (I'm assuming) but me and my father are extremely close and he has always been there for me.
About 10 years ago the older of the two girls contacted me and we spoke a bit through Facebook messenger, eventually she asked if we could meet each other. I wasn't ready for that at the time and instead of expressing it I believe that the conversation died there. The younger sister has never been interested in getting to know me and we have never talked. If I am being honest, at the time I don't think I was too interested either. I mean we've never met so it was hard for a 17 year old me to justify a relationship on the basis of being half siblings.
Fast forward to now.. I've grown into a man, and a lot changes for a person from 17-27 years old. Everything about me is different. I have a big interest with connecting with both my sisters, especially the one that reached out to me 10 years ago. She blocked me on Facebook (probably pissed from when I didn't reply to her before) and I don't blame her. I have found her through my gf's account, and I am thinking about reaching out to her and possibly meeting up next time I am in her area of the country which is about once a year. She has a 2 year old boy now as well.
I just feel like I should know my half sister, afterall we are blood. My father has been in contact with her again since a couple days ago, and he has been urging me to get in touch with her and he wants me to build a relationship with her and vice versa. My father has cancer so I think he is really question his life and in deep regret over how he handled this situation with his two daughters. I never speak to him about this regardless of how close we are because he always tries to change subjects when I do. I don't get it.
ANYWAYS, my question to you all.. do you think I should go through with this or are they better off without me? I don't know, I will most definitely get in touch with her this weekend through Facebook but I just want to hear some experiences if you guys have any. This is a very big life experience for me, and I don't want to let them down in anyway. Theyve been through enough.
You only live once. I have been thinking about getting into contact with relatives I have back in Asia, and even some old childhood friends who I lost contact with, but sometimes I afraid they wont be impressed by what they see. That is the one thing that is holding me back.