Make sure to get fast passes throughout the day for the longest lines. Usually Space Mountain, Radiator Springs, Indiana Jones, and the Tower of Terror (Guardians of the Galaxy now). Soaring over the World is my personal favorite ride.
Food wise the Pineapple Float is amazing at the Tiki Juice Bar. Big fan of Bengal BBQ and the skewers there. And Blue Bayou is a super cool restaurant with great atmosphere (actually in the Pirates ride).
Booze is at Downtown Disney or in California Adventure at the wharf area or vinery.
As far as shows there should be a parade or 2, fireworks are always good, but I really like the World of Color in California Adventure.
Worked there 3 years and had an annual pass. Probably been like 500+ times (I'm including work days).