The context you're missing is that this so-called self hatred has been passed down for generations and was forced upon black women.
By who?? Forced by who? And when??? That was then and this is now. Living in the past is not helping them.
What looks attractive now in 2024
vs. what is considered "acceptable" or "professional" in school and work are different things.
yeah I know. Not sure why this is being made so complicated.
Women didn't start wearing these things out of self-hate, they did it because they were told their hair was ugly.
And?? When was that? This is 2024. No excuse to wear fake nonsense today. Especially since it's so darn unattractive.
And if they wanted to get a job, or be presentable, they had to do their hair in a certain way.
When? pre-1960s? It's 2024. They need to let it go. Especially since they most likely weren't alive back then.
That way was passed down from their mama and their grand mama. That was putting some harsh chemicals in your hair to straighten it.
Harsh chemicals suck. Especially since they are paying so much to do it. Why pay for something that is unattractive and sucks?
If your natural hair isn't "acceptable",
aaoooooh!! Who said natural hair isn't acceptable?? You must not have read my posts properly. There's definitely some "context you are missing".
why would you be surprised that women would wear wigs?
On Halloween or a theater play... Not surprised. Why black women cling on to wig/weaves KNOWING it's not attractive is what surprises me. Like I said, it's an aspect that keeps them behind black south american, Caribbean, African, etc etc girls. That makes it very puzzling on why they stick with it.
If short or frizzy hair isn't considered attractive or feminine, again, why surprised at the wigs?
Who said that?? If you saw one of the girls I was dating in Brazil in 2021 you would have never asked me that.
It takes some work to manage black hair, and trying to straighten it everyday in order for it to be deemed acceptable for school or corporate would take up time.
Who doesn't accept it? And why are they so worried about what schools or corporate thinks? Saving time and money is more important in that aspect.
It's not even like this sort of discrimination has completely gone. An afro would naturally grow out of a black man/woman's head and it would be seen as unprofessional or not up to standards by many.
I don't agree with this nugget at all. This isn't the 1950's anymore. If a part time A-hole such as myself can accept it than so can everyone.
Common black hairstyles that help to tame and manage black hair are looked down on as being part of some gang or weed culture.
No one says it needs to be grown out to Afroman size and be kept that way at all times. And like I said, this isn't the 1950's anymore.
People literally will ask to touch black peoples' hair as if we were at a petting zoo.
And? Just say no. But when I was traveling through South America all through 2021 - TBA I had NOOOOOOOOO problem when females leaned in to get a better look at my eyes etc etc without asking. Don't be so sensitive.
Again, shouldn't be surprising why there's this so-called self hatred.
It's on them to toughen up and make a change. If MANY females in Uganda can make that change than so can American females.
