Dany was far more lenient? She started the fucking war in the first place. She's an entitled bitch who thinks the 7 kingdoms belong to her because of her last name. Jon is focused on saving humanity while Dany is focused on killing more people in a war she started. Leniency? Jon did spare Theon and what he did was much worse. Jon has been lenient. He could have given Aliser all the shit jobs or just sent him off to one of the poorly maintained castles on the wall, but instead he named him First Ranger. He could have fucked over Houses Umber and Karstark, but he let theWp their lands and titles. He could have fucked Sansa over for the shit she's done (not telling him about the KotV, and constantly undermining him), but he gave her control of the North in his absence. Jon is trying to get evere to work together while Dany is trying to conquer everyone.