Fastest way you've seen a friend ruin their life?

Life is hard to predict. Everyone in my childhood and HS Days went in random ways.
 
SoberAwakening said:
) DUI (Military guy on the path to promotion and instead got kicked out for a DUI)
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I was in the Army and it was amazing how 'strict' ... that isn't the best word for how asinine the consequences are to first time DUI offenders.

Basically, the standard punishment is stripping a soldier of their rank all the way down to E1 Private, extra duty for 45 days, banned from reenistment, and you're on the chain-of-command's shit list until the day you're contract is up.

Saw it happen to two soldiers, one of them had just been promoted to Sergeant a day before and was out celebrating.

That was in '04-'08. Perhaps now they just throw 'em out.

That's one of the reasons I rarely drank when I was in.
 
By having sex with me while we were both semi drunk. It was fast too.
 
This didn't happen quickly but over many years. None the less you guys might find it interesting.

So I grew up with this guy named Sean, his dad is a Doctor, a specialist to be more specific so he grew up pretty wealthy. He was a fairly smart guy and always had the gift of persuasion. His parents supplied him with an allowance, connections, Toyota Landcruiser, all kinds of stuff. He was always a big drinker and pot smoker but he balanced things well for the most part. When we were 18 he was already getting got stealing from his employer and his dad got him a lawyer and he got off. By our early 20's he was doing an electrician apprenticeship which he dropped out of, and he got his first DUI, again, which his dad got him out of with a lawyer. Fast forward through the next 8 years and he has had 4 DWI's, been to jail twice in Canada and America lol. Dude is a hardcore alcoholic and his parents have pretty much washed their hands of him and his own brother wont let him see his nephew.

He had girls, money, opportunity, everything. And he literally blew it all. And tons of second chances too.
 
An old business acquaintance of mine. He's a relatively young, wildly successful business man in a fair sized college town. This guy had set himself up for serious wealth. Everybody knew him and respected him. Just a rare, remarkable success story.

He just picked up a 20 year sentence for driving drunk and killing a woman in a head on collision. The crazy thing is they convicted him of murder, not manslaughter.

Kiss it all good bye, dude.
 
Other than suicide, I had a friend die of heroin overdose after essentially ruining his life with oxy. They cracked down on oxy prescriptions so, like many Americans, he turned to heroin.

I had a friend who was a heavy drinker. After his fiancé left him he turned into a straight up alcoholic and died of cirrhosis.

And I had some dumbass friends who were just dumb as fuck anyway and continued to ruin their lives and the lives of those around them, namely me, just by being a bunch of irresponsible mama's boys whose messes I always had to clean up.
 
GearSolidMetal said:
I was in the Army and it was amazing how 'strict' ... that isn't the best word for how asinine the consequences are to first time DUI offenders.

Basically, the standard punishment is stripping a soldier of their rank all the way down to E1 Private, extra duty for 45 days, banned from reenistment, and you're on the chain-of-command's shit list until the day you're contract is up.

Saw it happen to two soldiers, one of them had just been promoted to Sergeant a day before and was out celebrating.

That was in '04-'08. Perhaps now they just throw 'em out.

That's one of the reasons I rarely drank when I was in.
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The Marine Corps started fucking dudes hard in 08 right before I got out. Cpls started getting the go ahead to restrict dudes to the barracks if they drank too much and could demand that they turn over their car keys. If you blew over .04bac Sunday-Thursday night you had to go to SABC. I got out right as that shit started coming down. I was drinking a pint of jack a night at that time. I would have been fucked.
 
A friend of mine, who wasn't known to be tough, got in a fight with a guy from another school who was known to be tough.

My friend legitimately beat him up. And then he had a run in with another, even tougher guy (which didn't turn physical) but in which my friend made this legit badass back down.

Then the stories started to spread about him... some true but mostly false.
It got to his head and he was convinced he was unfuckwithable... different kinds of guys started to hang out with him. He started to be known as someone you don't mess with. And it all changed the trajectory of his life.

He went from being a good, close friend... to adopting almost a mobster mentality. And it's all traced from this one dumb fight that happened over a stupid misunderstanding back in 1993.
 
Went to school with a guy that got killed in iraq, 19. A guy in my squad killed in iraq, 21. What a shameful waste of a young life.

Know 2 guys from school in prison for armed robbery, and 1 guy for murder, can't remember if they gave him live or if he's on death row.
 
Right before I moved to Alberta when I was 16 one of my friends stabbed somebody to death.

He'd be a Sherdog hero tho. He started dating our teacher afterwards lol. She was small and cute too.

Then they broke up and now he dates busted trailer park gals.
 
Lost a friend to OD on some coke with something else in it. Have a friend hooked on meth and he will never be the same. Another friend right now got shot over some bullshit and he's fighting for his life.

These were all white kids who came from great families in a pretty mellow city. I can't imagine how crazy it must be to grow up and go to a school in LA or NY. If you were to take my group of friends or people I knew, and put them into other cities, they would have fucked shit up. Hell, I'd probably be dead.

I'm super greatful to have slipped away from the madness. I think without jiu jitsu or something to keep me out of trouble and I would have been gone.

I blame hip hop and drugs man. Some people just got too lost in that wannabe thug mentality. There's definitely more but I don't want to get sad typing it out.
 
I had a girlfriend for 7 years who had a severe shopping addiction and I lived with her for 5 years, basically put me in 40k worth of revolving debt because I had to pay for both our living expenses and all her financial trouble. Eventually we broke up and I had to file for bankruptcy. It was my own fault for staying with her so long. Didn't ruin my life completely, but definitely ruined my credit which had made many little things difficult for me.
 
My best friend lasted 2 weeks in Medical Residency. He had a breakdown and was kicked out of his program. He checked himself into rehab for cocaine addiction and sex addiction. Also was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. I was too blind to see it because I was doing the same shit he was but just not taking it to extremes.
 
KenstaBoy said:
I had a girlfriend for 7 years who had a severe shopping addiction and I lived with her for 5 years, basically put me in 40k worth of revolving debt because I had to pay for both our living expenses and all her financial trouble. Eventually we broke up and I had to file for bankruptcy. It was my own fault for staying with her so long. Didn't ruin my life completely, but definitely ruined my credit which had made many little things difficult for me.
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Damn, that really sucks. Essentially she messed your life up for like 12-14 years, at least financially
 
Damn.

I feel bad for liking some of these.
 
I have not totally screwed up my life because it was never fantastic to begin with, and I have not really done much since I was born.
 
LogicalError said:
Damn, that really sucks. Essentially she messed your life up for like 12-14 years, at least financially
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Pretty much, yes. But wiping the debt clean felt good. I was barely making just the interest payments for years and I could barely afford to just get by every month with rent and regular living expenses. I felt like it was sort of karma. I was a really shitty boyfriend to the girlfriend prior and she really didn't deserve that. But when I finally got my act together, I'm the one that got screwed. It was all just a big learning experience. Unfortunately the experiences and lessons come with some pretty hefty consequences.
 
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