The problem with Muslims claiming self defence is they see every little act as an "attack" against them, so they're constantly ready to attack the kafir while claiming to be victims.
Drew a cartoon of Mohammed? Attack against Islam
Said Mohammed was deeply flawed person (documented genocide, rape and pedophilia right in the Quran) ? Attack against Islam
Point out barbaric practices in Middle East? Attack against Islam
Stating forcing women to wear hijab or burka is oppressive? Attack against Islam
The only way you don't end up attacking Islam is if your convert and follow their religion. The very presence of non-believers is offensive and an attack on Islam. There is no peace with Muslims, and hasn't been since the 8th century. You can live "peacefully" with them, but they will turn on you the first chance they get. Christians, Assyrians, Druze, Shias and Yazidis learned that the hard way in Iraq and Syria. When secular authority collapsed, their Sunni neighbors slaughtered them the first chance they got. The capital of ISIS, Raqqa, used to be one of the most liberal cities in Syria. Within a few weeks of falling to ISIS, they were crucifying Christians on the streets.
Don't want a war with Islam? Too bad, they will bring the battle to you. You either fight, kneel or wait for a knife to your throat.